Why are egg donors compensated? Is the egg donor compensation enough?

piggybank4These are questions which are often raised by both potential egg donors as well as intended parents. When on the fence and still deciding if donating some of your precious eggs is right for you, some donors may initially think ”this is an easy way to make a quick buck.” With our extensive experience as SA’s top Egg Donor Agency we know this is not the case for many of our donors.

Whilst a couple of extra ronts can go a long way – our donors know that there is a very special recipient on the other end of the donation – a recipient who has probably been to hell and back a few times.  A recipient who has invested a huge amount – both financially and emotionally.  It is THIS that motivates our fabulous Nurture donors.

You know how you get some people who volunteer, who recycle, who seem to genuinely care about their fellow human beings? That is the type of donor we have on our database. Genuinely amazing people.

Nurture’s Egg Donors do receive a set compensation of R6,000 per donation cycle. This is to compensate them for their time, travel and effort during the donation process. The compensation is paid to them on the day of the egg retrieval, regardless of whether a successful outcome or not. The Southern African Society of Reproductive Medicine and Gynecological Endoscopy Regulations (SASREG.) have strict guidelines and protocol procedures, as well as set guidelines for compensation that Nurture abides by.

We do think that the compensation is sufficient for the egg donor’s time and commitment involved. Donors feel a tremendous sense of pride and happiness when they are able to help a recipient build the family they have struggled for. Egg donation really is a great opportunity to give back and make a remarkable difference in someone else’s world. This cannot be equated to in monetary value. As one donor stated “ The financial reimbursement I felt was eclipsed by the happiness I felt”.

Egg Donors are motivated for different reasons and there is no question that an extra R6,000 could make a difference for an egg donor at some stage in their life. At the time of donation, donors are not planning to create a child of their own so many feel that it is a selfless way they can make a difference for intended parents who desperately want a child to love.

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 Some of the amazing women who have decided being an egg donor is right for them, have taken a few moments to share with us why they have decided to be an egg donor.

“Being a mommy myself I know there is no greater gift I can give someone other than helping them become a parent. I myself can’t imagine the pain involved in not being able to become a parent and if there’s a chance that I can help, I would gladly love to give that gift :)”

“I would love to have the opportunity to help other parents experience the joy of children. Little angels to bless your day and fill your lives with love, happiness, sadness, joy and tears – pure pleasure in experiencing the miracle of a child. Helping women experience these gifts will fulfill my life”

“It has been something that I have been thinking about since becoming a young adult.  After having my first child, it made it so clear to me that I have great compassion for those couples out there that so desperately need an angel to make there lives blossom the way my children have changed mine.  I would feel honoured to help those who are in need of assistance.”

“Every month my eggs are flushed out of my system without a thought of what miracle they could become for someone else. I am a healthy, active, young 21 year old woman who currently is not using her eggs and I would like to help a couple/ woman who would love their own miracle. There are so many women out there who have good, working ovaries and beautiful children, but who do not appreciate the miracles they have been given and who unfortunately and sadly mistreat them. I want to give a life to people who are dedicated to raising and nurturing a family, but cannot do that on their own. The detail that goes into making a life is so precious, delicate and detailed beyond anyone’s imagination, how could anybody not think they’re making a difference by giving future parents a chance to raise their own human being who will become something great one day. I want to be a part of that design and sow a part of my love into that future little person. No one can ever have enough love.”

“I would love to become a donor to make a positive difference in someone else’s life. All I want to do is help where I can. It will be such an enriching experience to know that I could bring happiness and a blessing to a family” 

For more information on becoming an egg donor, please visit us here.

Or email us at info@nurture.co.za 

Why is it important for an egg donor to have a healthy BMI?

bmi2Firstly, lets address this Body Mass Index (BMI) that everyone talks about…

BMI is the measurement of a person’s body fat percentage, based on their height versus weight proportions.  To help you determine your BMI click here

One of the basic requirements for being an egg donor is to have a healthy BMI, ideally between 18 and 28. This has absolutely nothing to do with us wanting size 6 swimsuit models as donors!  Who doesn’t love a bit of curve after all!  But, on a serious note, we all know that being too voluptuous or too skinny-malinky is not good for one’s health – there are many medical facts to substantiate this and people with an unhealthy weight are prone to many health problems, never mind infertility.

When it comes to Fertility Medication

It has been proven that fertility drugs aren’t as effective in an over /under weight person as they are with those with a healthy weight.  Having to regulate the donor’s menstrual cycle with that of the intended parents is a critical step in managing an egg donation cycle. If your BMI isn’t within the correct range it can be difficult to predict a safe dosage of fertility medications for the best possible outcome. It may require higher doses of medication for the drugs to have the same effect on a woman with a high or low BMI. This higher dose of fertility medication puts the donor at risk of Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome (OHSS) we never, ever want that!

It can also result in the Dr having to stop the treatment cycle entirely if the follicle growth just ain’t happening.  Extremely disappointing for both the Donor and the Recipient who is heavily invested, both financially and emotionally in the process – again, we never, ever want that!

Anesthesia

During the egg retrieval you will be placed under anesthesia for about 20 minutes.  Anesthesia with a high (or low) BMI can cause a greater risk in respiratory and airway complications. The Doctors will never do anything potentially unsafe for a donor.  Becoming a donor is one of the most amazing gifts that you can ever give to someone, however it should come with as little risk to you and those precious eggs during the retrieval.

As an egg donor it is important to focus on the end result. You are providing what could be another life.  You will be providing intended parents the ability to have the baby they have longed for (phenomenal person you are!)

We cannot stress it enough – not only is it important for those eggies to be the best they can be but also the safety of the egg donor.

Having a BMI set within the normal range, between 18 and 28, is something that is important – Nurture cares about YOU!

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If being an Egg Donor isn’t right for you, why not consider being a Gestational Surrogate rather?

BwGrf6eIEAAcVFpSurrogacy is the incredibly selfless act of carrying a baby for someone who is medically unable to do so themselves. With Gestational surrogacy (most commonly practiced nowadays), the surrogate has no genetic ties and is not related in any way to the embryo she is carrying. Embryos may come from the intended mother and father or from an egg donor.

There are many medical reasons why people may need a surrogate. A surrogate is used most often when the intended mother is capable of producing healthy eggs but can’t get pregnant herself.  This is often because the intended mother has no uterus e.g. the woman has had a hysterectomy or has an abnormal uterus which prevents her from carrying a baby of her own.

There are also many gay couples who long to be parents and have a family of their own. For obvious reasons, they are unable to become pregnant and therefore rely on the generosity of a surrogate mother to do it for them.

What makes a surrogate pregnancy so extraordinarily special is that a surrogate mother carries the baby for another person who, without them would not be able to fulfill their dream of having a baby.  If it were not for women who are willing to perform this ultimate act of human kindness, there would be so many men and women out there who would be forced to face a future of broken hearts and empty arms.

Surrogacy is a complex and expensive option (for the commissioning couple), and is really only suitable for women without a uterus, women whose uterus is damaged or for gay male couples.

Once the High Court has approved the medical certificate from your doctor saying that you are medically unable to carry a baby, a legal contract is made between the intended parents , their chosen Surrogate Agency (www.surrogacy.co.za) and the surrogate mother. It may also include the participation of an egg donor (www.nurture.co.za) whose eggs will be retrieved and fertilized with the partner’s sperm and then implanted into the surrogate mother’s uterus.  This legal agreement will have to be confirmed and authorised by the high court before any treatment can commence.

InVitro Fertilization (IVF) is then used to form the embryo which is implanted into the surrogate mother’s uterus for the purpose of growing the miracle baby and hopefully carrying a healthy pregnancy to full term.

What’s in it for the Surrogate Mother ?

  1. Without an ounce of doubt, front row, VIP seats in heaven!  No amount can ever equate to what a gift the surrogate mother has given.
  2. In terms of South Africa’s “New Children’s Act”, surrogacy can only be done for altruistic reasons and not for commercial gain. This means that you may claim for any expenses that are directly related to the surrogacy/pregnancy and you may claim within reason for loss of income. The commissioning parents will cover the cost of a medical aid for the duration of your pregnancy/birth, including a few months post-partum. A life insurance policy will also be provided by the commissioning couple for the duration of the surrogacy.  All other expenses related to the Surrogacy will be covered by the Commissioning Parents. They will also cover all the legal fees, as well as any counselling that the Surrogate mother may require.
  3. She will get full medical attention and any medical care needed to make sure that the implanted embryo reaches full term.
  4. A surrogate mother understands that she has no right to the child once born as she has agreed in a written contract that her primary role is merely to carry the baby to full term.

Gestational Surrogacies are widely popular today however as you can appreciate there are only a handful of women who are medically, emotionally and psychologically able to carry a baby for someone else.  The reality is that there is a shortage of suitable surrogates in South Africa.  This means that there is a waiting list of people who need a surrogate and finding the right surrogate mother is way more complicated than many anticipate.

Qualifications for a Surrogate Mother:

A surrogate mother must meet the below criteria before she may proceed and is matched with possible intended parents:

  • You must be in good physical, emotional and mental health
  • You must be a South African citizen
  • You must be between 21 and 42 years old. The older a woman gets, the higher her chances are of a high risk pregnancy.
  • Her BMI must be below 35
  • You must have had at least one pregnancy, a viable birth and have a living child of her own. This will give her important experience and knowledge of the difficulties that come with pregnancy and .
  • You may not have had more than 2 caesarean sections
  • You must be willing to take a psychological screening. A thorough psychological test will determine if the candidate is appropriate to be a surrogate mother. This will reveal any issues the surrogate mother may have regarding her motivations, expectations and behaviour towards the agreement.
  • You must be a non-smoker and live in a smoke free environment
  • You must not be taking current medications that may be deemed unsafe for pregnancy
  • Must not have had medical complications related to previous pregnancies
  • You will need a strong support system at home who will support her decision to become a surrogate mother
  • You must be willing to have a background check
  • You must be someone who the commissioning couple can count on and trust implicitly
  • You must be someone who will communicate openly, honestly, and consistently
  • You must be someone who is as committed as they are to creating their dream of a family
  • You must be someone who will follow the doctor’s orders and SA surrogacy protocol diligently

Should you require any further information or wish to apply please visit: www.surrogacy.co.za

We would love to tell you more about how you can make a huge difference as a gestational carrier.

 

“Egg donation: The ultimate gift”

44232cb7e610e767efda8e042dfb8c6e“After years of not being able to fall pregnant more South African women are turning to egg donation IVF to become mothers.  Dominique Oosthuizen explores how through egg donation women struggling to fall pregnant can have children.

Receiving the gift of life

Slowly the eggs (oocytes) are extracted through the vagina of the donor with a small needle. These eggs are her hope for a family.  These eggs carry her dream to become a mother.

They are carefully fertilised in an in vitro fertilisation (IVF) laboratory with her husband’s sperm. The embryos are then cultured and grown over the next few days until the doctor cautiously transfer the embryos into her womb.

From these two cells all the babies’ organs and body parts will develop. From these two layers of cells a little miracle will form.

“When I saw their heartbeats for the first time it was surreal,” tells a donor egg recipient. “I cried and I cried and I cried. Finally! Finally it was my turn to become a mother.”

As she had only disclosed to her close family and friends of her journey with egg donation IVF the recipient decided to remain anonymous.

“There was no black or white explanation on why I could not conceive children, but I was determined to be a mother.

“Through the donation someone was able to give me such a selfless gift,” she says with great thankfulness to the anonymous donor.

She lightly laughs and adds, “The donor actually gave me twice the gift — she gave me twins. She helped me reach a dream that I once thought was unreachable.”

Donating agencies: collectors of apples

“The process of donating eggs can be compared to the collection of fruit,” says Jenny Curry, the owner of Baby2mom, a company that facilitates the egg donation process by co-ordinating the donor and the recipient.

“Every month a woman loses a certain amount of eggs — just as an apple tree will lose apples,” she explains.

“But, if you stand there with a basket to collect the apples it just means that they are going to good use. Those who are not collected will fall to the earth and rot.”

She says that instead of losing your eggs through menstruation they can rather be collected and put into good use.

“Egg donation is an extraordinary life-changing gift. It is a gift that offers hope to women who previously thought they could never have children.”

According to Curry, women who are in good health and who do not have any genetic illnesses or concerns can donate their eggs.

Companies such as Baby2mom, Nurture, and Gift ov Life have online databases where possible recipients can look at a profile of all the possible donors.

“The donor’s profile will among others provide a recipient with information about the donor’s physical profile, education/occupation, and behavioural traits,” she explains. Adding that the donor’s identity will remain anonymous.

“When a donor commits to donating her eggs she has the ethical responsibility to participate in the process as instructed,” says Curry.

“When the donor completes the process and does what is expected of her, she will receive a donation of R 6000 as approved by the South African Health Department.”

She emphasises that it is a donation and not a payment. “It is a gift for the donor’s effort, the incurred medical cost and the time the donor had put into someone else’s dream.”

According to Curry the donor has no rights towards a child that is conceived through egg donation.

“South African law says that the birth mother holds all the rights and responsibility when it comes to the child. Legally the child is the recipient’s child.”

Donating the ultimate gift

“We are born with over 2 million eggs and we lose them during our lifetime,” says Jamaine Krige, an egg donor who has donated eggs twice. “If they are going to be lost why not give them to someone that can benefit from it?

“We all know someone that is struggling to have a baby. While having children is not a priority for me right now — I know the importance that it carries to a lot of women,” she says.

“For the recipient it means the world. You are helping them get the family they have always wanted.”

Krige explains that egg donation is an important process. “Unlike adoption or surrogacy it actually affords the women a chance to play a part in the process of giving birth to her baby.

“The donor might provide the genetic material for conception, but the recipient still carries the baby. She still nurtures the baby in her womb.

“She plays a vital part in bringing the baby in to this life.”

Doctor’s advice 

Dr Paul le Roux, a reproductive medicine specialist at Cape Fertility Clinic, says that infertility exists when a women is unable to conceive after 12 months of unprotected intercourse.

“Ovarian failure may be due to previous chemotherapy, radiotherapy and/or prior surgery,” he says.  Adding that infertility can also be due to poor egg quality because of age related deterioration or due to inherited genetic conditions.

According to Le Roux one in every three women, above the age of 40, will not be able to conceive naturally and will need fertility treatment in order to get pregnant.

Le Roux explains that once an egg-recipient has found a donor, either through a donor agency or through someone they know, both the donor and the recipient will see a fertility specialist for treatment.

“The recipient will have medication to prepare her womb lining for the embryo transfer, while the donor will have medication to grow the eggs. The donor will have to take daily injections of Follicle-stimulating Hormone (FSH) for approximately 10 days,” he expands.

“The donor will then be monitored with trans-vaginal ultrasound every couple of days until the eggs are ready to be extracted.”

According to Le Roux the IVF success rate in South Africa is approximately 35% per embryo transfer.

The reproductive specialist says egg donors should preferably between the age of 21 and 34 as “any eggs of a donor, older than 34, might decrease the success rate of the IVF”.

He also says for health reason the South African Society of Reproductive Medicine and Gynaecological Endoscopy (SASREG) suggest that oocyte donors should be limited to 6 donations.

“Medical risks for the egg donor are generally small, but risks may include ovarian hyper-stimulation syndrome, pelvic infection, ovarian torsion, intra-abdominal bleeding, loss of future fertility and anaesthetic complications,” says Le Roux.

A mother’s words

“A mother is a woman who will love her children unconditionally until her last breath,” says the egg donor recipient.

“As a mother you choose to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own. As a mother you will have your patience tested to the ends of the earth.

“You will learn about your personal strengths you did not know you had and you will deal with fears you did not know existed. No greater privilege exists. Everybody deserves to be a mother.”

With thanks to journalism student, Dominique Oosthuizen for sharing her investigation into the Egg Donation industry with us!

How to grow beautiful, organic free range eggs!

chickenYou’ve been chosen by a recipient who has just invested a whole lot of time, emotions and money in the hope of becoming parents. By agreeing to be their donor, you’ve already done a truly wonderful thing, THANK YOU!

If you are wondering what you can do to improve your recipients chances at success…..keep on reading!budah

Well, there are lots of things you can do! Some of them are in the ‘can’t hurt, might help’ category – these include rubbing your Buddha’s belly, lighting your candles, singing your chants and saying a few prayers. We welcome as much help as the universe is prepared to give us. But there are even more things you can do, practical things that have been proven to increase the quality of your eggs.

Here is a list of Good Things and Bad Things that could affect whether your recipient conceives or not.

The Good Stuff

  • Folic acid (also known at vitamin B9) is a VERY cheap over-the-counter vitamin that greatly increases the quality of the eggs and prevents deformities in the embryo. It only costs a few ronts at the chemist, so we urge you to get some as soon as possible. Added bonus? Better skin and hair for you – even more gorgeousness!
  • waterMultivitamin – this is kind of self-explanatory. Anything that makes YOU healthier will make those eggies healthier too. So if you aren’t yet on a good multi vitamin, put yourself on one. Ask your friendly pharmacist for advice.
  • Water, water, water… drink, drink, drink.strawbs.jpg
  • Vegetables and fruit – the stuff your mother told you to eat as a child. She might have been off base with other stuff, but in this case she was right.

The Bad Stuff

  • Ok, I know this is going to make your sphincter clench, but smoking is BAAAAAD for you. Even if you don’t care about yourself too much, every single research study says that smoking is bad for your eggs. Egg quality is greatly reduced by smoking, so please please PLEASE try and cut back as much as you can. And if you are up to it, why don’t you use this as motivation to quit all together. You will be doing your recipient a huge favour and yourself! Seriously – smoking = very bad for egg quality
  • Smokers vs Non-smokers – how does it affect success rates:
    • # % # pos % success ave # eggs
      smokers 22 36% 10 45% 12
      non smokers 39 64% 23 59% 11

       In other words:

  • 64% of our donors don’t smoke.
  • Smokers only have a 45% success rate per attempt, where as non-smokers have a 59% success rate per attempt.
  • In other words, non-smokers fare 29% better as donors than smokers.
  • Average number of eggs retrieved is the same.
  • wine.jpgDrinking – look, we love our wine here at Nurture, so we would be the LAST people to tell you to give up, but as with everything, moderation is key. If you are going to drink yourself into a stupor, not only will you feel like poo the next day, but your egg quality will be reduced.

 

Bottom Line: Take a multivitamin (remember that taking folic acid is important to prevent neural tube defects in the early fetus), eat a diet rich in vegetable protein, low in animal protein, moderate processed starches and … drink water, lots of it. We are not saying “none” of this or “nun” of that – but a little extra tender loving care can go a long way!

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How many people does it take to make a baby?

10412026_10152315775450836_6826673376475710640_nTWO……We hear you say!!!

Well, nope, nowhere close!

That would be the answer in ‘normal’ circumstances, but when a recipient is medically unable to conceive on their own and decides to enlist the assistance of an egg donor to have a baby, we are talking about a whole team of people – in fact you would be surprised at just how many people are involved in the donation process, especially in the support and care of our amazing donors!

There are well over 15 people involved in each cycle, each having a critical part to play in this incredible journey, all striving for the same goal – to help a recipient reach their dream of having a baby (or two!)

It starts at the beginning with you and your decision to be an egg donor.  We know this isn’t a decision which is taken lightly – thank you for doing your research, homework and soul searching! Then there are the fabulous Nurture team who are right behind you 100% of the way, as well as the fertility clinic and all the team there who pull everything together to make the magic happen.

At the clinic your treatment is managed by a large team consisting of doctors, counsellors, IVF co-ordinators, admin staff, lab technicians (who take your blood samples), theatre nurses, embryologists (who collect, fertilise and take great care of your precious eggs) and many others who all have some vital part to play in the miraculous process of creating a life (or two!)

Not to mention the recipients, their friends and family who are in the background, waiting with high hopes for precious eggs and then with mixed feelings of anxiety and excitement for a positive pregnancy result!  The recipient’s are so close to the final stretch that lies ahead of them and to hopefully welcoming their baby into the world, all of this is because of YOU! Rest assured they are holding you up high in their thoughts and forever in their hearts!

When you go for a clinic appointment, you might be thinking that it’s just you and one or two other people involved in your treatment, this couldn’t be further from the truth! Being a donor really is an incredible experience, your immense generosity affects a number of people, some who you will not meet, but take comfort in the fact that each time you go to the clinic, a very dedicated team will all be ready to apply their unique expertise to the different stages of your journey and the Nurture team are always right here to support you from beginning to the very end and beyond!

We too will forever hold you in our hearts! x

 

“I thank you for your part in my journey”

A heart warming message from an amazing recipient who’s donor donated a second time, so that she, the recipient will have the opportunity to have a biological sibling for her first child:heart trio

“I had my 7 week appointment with the Dr today and I am so pleased to say I am pregnant with TWO beautiful babies!!

I am so grateful to Nurture and more importantly to my donor who agreed to donate again.  I have a lovely handsome son and now he will not be lonely, he will have two siblings.

I know I can’t communicate with the donor but please send my biggest thanks to her for giving me this precious gift of being a parent again. I know it’s God’s work and plan but he had a reason for me choosing this lovely woman! My son is peaceful and courteous and I am making sure he grows up to be the leader that I know he is.

I don’t have the words but THANK YOU. I am in tears writing this from both excitement and joy. 

The whole Vitalab team shared in my joy today, it was so wonderful to see.

I won’t stop. So let me stop here. 

Thank you to all of you.

Love always

xx”

“I would do it again in a heartbeat”

0daa4d25bf9af1db86f4c979f92e8cd1I’ve just got back home now from a wonderful stay in Cape Town. 

I just want to thank you for the amazing assistance I received from the Nurture team and the great stay at the guest house. The whole process from the time I was first told that I had been chosen as a donor until I got back home was absolutely wonderful! Everyone at the Cape Fertility Clinic was so pleasant and friendly too!

It truly was such an amazing experience and I would do it again in a heartbeat! I really pray and hope that everything works out well for the recipient.

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“This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish”

Tammuz ad copy“I do not have the words to explain how I am feeling right now. I just left the clinic after my egg retrieval.  I’m sooo emotional from all the happiness.

I feel super blessed to have had the opportunity to donate and think it was all so worth it. I cannot express enough how grateful I am for the couple who chose me. I can’t seem to stop crying. This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish!

Please tell the recipient parents that I got their gift and I appreciate it more than they could ever know, I hope and pray for every success with this journey ahead of them.

Thank you to Nurture and the staff at Vitalab too, they really were amazing. I hope to do this again soon.

Good luck & God bless xx”

Nurture gals….privileged to be working from home

e07bb633c0a774c5267c6451025c2d25The fabulous Nurture gals are very fortunate to have the privilege of working from home (some may call it a blessing!). Admittedly it does pose its challenges i.e. knowing when to stop working (because we absolutely LOVE what we do!), knowing how to say no to those friends who want to go hang out at Vida, learning how to balance work, family, chores and errands without burning one’s self out. We all have amusing stories to share about managing husband and kids demands, multi- tasking, neglecting one’s appearance, juggling the demands of the office and dealing with stepping out of the comfort zone when the time comes to refrain from working in one’s pajama’s and to make an actual appearance in person.

Over the years we’ve learned to really appreciate the obvious benefits of not having to commute to and from an office and waste hours away in crazy traffic jams.  Let us not forget the savings on fuel and vehicle maintenance, on ludicrous phone bills (after all what else is a woman to do in traffic other than catch up with girlfriends?) and on uncomfortable business attire (which we all hate anyway!).

Having the ability to work from our beds on those dreary winter days, to sneak in the odd mani, to share in the day to day tribulations of child rearing and most importantly being available when our families need us, as well as having the luxury of being able to spend more time with our precious families are perks one cannot put a price to.

All of this whilst contributing to the household income and helping make a huge difference to the lives of other people which is something we’re all so passionate about, we wouldn’t change it for the world!