How Can I Support My Partner During IVF Therapy?

IVF (In Vitro Fertilisation) is a fertility treatment that involves the removal of eggs from a woman’s ovaries, which are then fertilised with sperm in a laboratory. IVF treatments can involve the use of a woman’s own eggs or a donor egg. Once fertilised, the embryos are transferred to the woman’s uterus to hopefully result in a successful pregnancy. While IVF can be an exciting and hopeful journey, it can also be a challenging and emotional course for couples. If you have a partner going through IVF, you may wonder how to support them during this time. Here are some tips to help you be the best support system you can be.

  1. Be Informed

The first step in supporting your partner through IVF is to educate yourself about the process. Accompany your partner to medical appointments and ask for information about their treatment plan and any medications they may be taking. You can also do your own research and read up on IVF, including success rates, possible side effects, and emotional challenges. The more you understand about the process, the better equipped you’ll be to support your partner and be there for them when they need you.

  • Be Available

IVF treatment can be physically and emotionally draining, and your partner may need extra support during this time. Make sure you’re available when they need you. This may mean taking time off work or rearranging your schedule to be there for appointments or just to spend time together. Let your partner know that you’re there for them and that they can rely on you for support.

  • Be Patient

IVF can be an emotional rollercoaster, with highs and lows that can be difficult to navigate. It’s important to be empathetic and understanding towards your partner, even when you don’t know exactly what they’re going through. Acknowledge their feelings and tell them you’re there for them, no matter what. Listen without judgment and offer words of encouragement. Reach out to a counsellor or therapist if you, as a couple, need extra support.

  • Be Practical

During IVF treatment, your partner may experience physical and emotional challenges that can be exhausting. They may need practical help with everyday tasks, such as cooking, cleaning, and running errands. You can support them by offering to take on some of these tasks, so they can focus on their treatment and rest as needed. You can also help streamline their daily routine by booking appointments, arranging transportation to and from appointments, and ensuring they have access to healthy meals and snacks.

  • Be Mindful

While it’s essential to be there for your partner during IVF, it’s also important to take care of yourself. IVF treatment can also be stressful and emotionally challenging for the partner, so don’t neglect your mental and physical health. Ensure you get enough sleep, eat well, and take time for self-care activities that help you relax and recharge. This will help you be a better support system for your partner.

  • Be Positive

IVF treatment can be a long and challenging process, but staying positive and hopeful is vital. Encourage your partner and remind them of the end goal: a healthy pregnancy and a beautiful baby. Celebrate small victories and milestones along the way and stay focused on the future.

  • Be holistic

Couples going through IVF treatment should make a point of enjoying each other’s company and prioritising their relationship outside of their fertility journey. Make sure you fill your pre-pregnancy time with positive memories and experiences outside of the IVF journey. Plan fun activities, take walks on the beach or enjoy regular date nights. Additionally, it is important to remember that your relationship isn’t defined by your ability to conceive a child. You are still partners who love and support each other, and the strength of your bond is what will carry you through this journey.

Our team at Nurture provides ongoing emotional and practical support throughout the fertility process. From the initial consultation to pregnancy and beyond, we never let go of your hand. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help you on your fertility journey.

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Tertia Albertyn is the founder of Nurture - South Africa’s longest-running and most successful Egg Donation Program. An accomplished speaker and an award-winning published author, as well as an ex-infertility patient herself, she is highly regarded in South Africa and internationally for the work she does in infertility. Tertia was instrumental in establishing the first FDA-approved frozen donor egg bank in Africa. Tertia has an MBA from the University of Cape Town and lives in Cape Town, South Africa with her husband and three children.