As the festive season fast approaches, people are franticly preparing for the start of the school holidays, planning their get-away, braving the malls and not to mention the parade of Christmas holidays just around the corner. With all this on the go, it is heartwarming to see that there are still many young women looking for ways to make a difference. You’ve come to the right place!
Making a difference in the lives of others does not need to be a big heroic act or cost an arm and a leg! Even simple gestures, done with the greatest intentions can bring huge joy and really make a positive impact on the lives of others.
The list is endless, but here are a few acts that you can do to help towards making a difference in someone’s life.
- Donate any unused items (clothing, bedding, food, books, toys) to a local charity of your choice. They are clogging up space in your home and can still be put to good use by someone who is less fortunate than you
- Volunteer at your local animal shelter. Take the doggies for a walk
- Volunteer at a Children’s home or orphanage – read stories, play with the children – they love the individual attention and their happiness really is food for one’s soul!
- Visit the elderly. Many are “stranded” with no family or friends to visit them. A cup of tea and your youthful energy is a breath of fresh air for them.
- Be a clown at the paediatric ward in your local government hospital. Laughs and giggles are their best medicine! Many little one’s families are too far away for regular visits
- Bake biscuits / hand out sweets to the street children
- Donate blood – the blood banks never have too much and the demand rises during accident peak season
- Become an egg donor. Many people dream about becoming parents and having their own children. In all likelihood, having had a heartbreaking year fighting infertility, it is especially hard at this “family orientated” time of the year. By being an egg donor you are giving hope to people who long for and have struggled for a family of their own! You really can be their light at the end of a very dark tunnel and help make their dreams come true!
We know there are many things women can do to help people. If becoming an egg donor is something you would like to learn more about, please do get in touch, Nurture would love to welcome you to our program.
A heart warming message from an amazing recipient who’s donor donated a second time, so that she, the recipient will have the opportunity to have a biological sibling for her first child:
“I had my 7 week appointment with the Dr today and I am so pleased to say I am pregnant with TWO beautiful babies!!
I am so grateful to Nurture and more importantly to my donor who agreed to donate again. I have a lovely handsome son and now he will not be lonely, he will have two siblings.
I know I can’t communicate with the donor but please send my biggest thanks to her for giving me this precious gift of being a parent again. I know it’s God’s work and plan but he had a reason for me choosing this lovely woman! My son is peaceful and courteous and I am making sure he grows up to be the leader that I know he is.
I don’t have the words but THANK YOU. I am in tears writing this from both excitement and joy.
The whole Vitalab team shared in my joy today, it was so wonderful to see.
I won’t stop. So let me stop here.
Thank you to all of you.
Once people have decided to enlist the assistance of an egg donor to have a baby, they need to find a suitable egg donor. Something that if done on your own, can feel very much like going on a blind date, blind-folded.
Selecting an egg donor is not too unlike online dating where you can view the profiles of an overwhelming number of potential suitors. Only, in this case, your ‘matchmaking’ service is not a dating service website, but an egg donation agency who knows that this is not just about a once off event, but instead understands that choosing the right donor is one of the most important decisions you will make for your future family. After selecting a reputable egg donor agency, donor recipients will have access to the agency’s database of egg donors from where they will be able to peruse and review a variety of egg donor profiles. Egg donors are healthy young female volunteers between the ages of 21 and 34 years old. In South Africa, an egg donor’s identity is never revealed – which is why future parents are only able to view baby and toddler photos of their donor. This is to protect the donor’s anonymity
But in order to make sure that donors select the right person, all the egg donor profiles contain extensive and detailed information about the donor: From her physical traits, full medical history, family information, academic information, personality traits, interests, social as well as professional aspects. In fact, you will get to know virtually everything about her, except her real name. Her profile should also state her egg donation stipulations and availability.
These detailed profiles allow the recipients to make an informed choice and to ultimately select someone who closely matches their own uniqueness in attributes and physical appearance.
All efforts are undertaken by a reputable egg donor agency to optimise the process for egg donors and their recipients to make the process as efficient as possible and to increase the success rate of conception. An established egg donation agency will be able to effectively guide and support recipients about selecting the right profiled egg donor. It is important that people have access to a solid and reputable egg donor database.
When egg donation recipients find ‘the one’, that ideal candidate who is the right fit for them, they will most often experience contentment and peace when reading the egg donor profile. Sometimes it’s a ‘gut feel’ thing, othertimes it’s a ‘connection’ that takes place when you read a specific profile. But no matter how you choose your perfect donor, it is vital that the ‘matchmaking’ agency makes the process as comforting and fulfilling as possible.
The fabulous Nurture gals are very fortunate to have the privilege of working from home (some may call it a blessing!). Admittedly it does pose its challenges i.e. knowing when to stop working (because we absolutely LOVE what we do!), knowing how to say no to those friends who want to go hang out at Vida, learning how to balance work, family, chores and errands without burning one’s self out. We all have amusing stories to share about managing husband and kids demands, multi- tasking, neglecting one’s appearance, juggling the demands of the office and dealing with stepping out of the comfort zone when the time comes to refrain from working in one’s pajama’s and to make an actual appearance in person.
Over the years we’ve learned to really appreciate the obvious benefits of not having to commute to and from an office and waste hours away in crazy traffic jams. Let us not forget the savings on fuel and vehicle maintenance, on ludicrous phone bills (after all what else is a woman to do in traffic other than catch up with girlfriends?) and on uncomfortable business attire (which we all hate anyway!).
Having the ability to work from our beds on those dreary winter days, to sneak in the odd mani, to share in the day to day tribulations of child rearing and most importantly being available when our families need us, as well as having the luxury of being able to spend more time with our precious families are perks one cannot put a price to.
All of this whilst contributing to the household income and helping make a huge difference to the lives of other people which is something we’re all so passionate about, we wouldn’t change it for the world!
When you’ve made the important decision to start or expand your family through egg donation, the next vital step you need to take is to select a reputable egg donation agency.
A great egg donation agency is a bit like a doctor with a great bedside manner. An understanding best friend who is always willing to listen and an attentive councillor, who can guide you through challenging times all rolled into one! Infertility is a tough, lonely place – you need all the help you can get, to keep your sanity and your sense of humour intact.
Not only will a good agency provide you with a large database of wonderful and carefully pre-screened egg donors to choose from, but it will ensure that you receive excellent service from them as well as from the fertility clinic where you will be treated, every step of the way. This means that there will be constant interaction and intervention between the agency, the fertility clinic and the egg donor, and that you will be kept well informed at all times during the process.
An egg donor program that is managed and facilitated by a really good egg donation agency, will help donor recipients to better understand the process, answer any and all questions with patience and clarity. This will save prospective recipients from the trouble of having to wade through and trying to comprehend any medical or legal issues that they would like to clarify.
In South Africa, egg donor agencies are primarily located in the major cities such as Cape Town, Johannesburg, Pretoria and Durban. In some instances, donor agencies have donors who are willing to travel to other cities to participate in the program.
When choosing a donor agency, prospective donor egg recipients need to explore important criteria such as the agency’s reputation, its affordability, efficiency, availability of egg donors, professionalism, the period of time it has been in existence, its association with top fertility clinics in the area and the quality of its service.
Another aspect that makes an egg donation agency excellent is its commitment to continuously expand and keep fresh its database of profiled egg donors by recruiting new donors. A great agency will also offer immediate feedback to any queries pertaining to egg donation fertility treatment.
A good egg donor agency doesn’t over promise and under-deliver. A good egg donor agency makes sure that all their donors that are listed as available, ARE available and meet the prescribed criteria. A good egg donor agency knows that by the time a recipient couple has reached the point of egg donation, they are tired, heartbroken and financially and emotionally depleted. A good egg donor agency does their utmost to ensure that this is the last chapter of the journey that ends with the words “….and they all lived happily ever after”.