When Tertia asked me to tell about my experience, I had two parallel internal responses: one is that I prefer not to talk about it, and keep the whole thing to myself in order to preserve my privacy. The other was that I really would like to help Tertia to help others. So we came up with the idea of this anonymous letter…
First I would to share my warm feelings to Tertia. Though we had never met and our communication was via emails and phone, from the first moment I felt that I was in a safe place of humanity, sensitivity, empathy and patience, and above all I felt that she was doing her job out of a personal mission and from a true will to help me to be a mother!
So, here is the thing: we went the whole way and did the whole process of donation in SA – egg purchase, fertilisation and implementation. Needless to say, this process is personal. Every woman and couple have their own sensitivities and any choice is a very personal issue. However, the choice of SA demands an independent set of mind and personal involvement all the way: choosing the agency and the donor, communicating with the clinic, the treatment protocol, the journey to SA, the considerably long stay, the logistics… but in the end it was worth it!
First, SA has a very high level advanced medical system. Second, it is impossible to describe the interaction, professionalism and sensitivity we were met with. As a couple, we felt through the whole way that we are in good hands – from the early stage of choosing a donor through Nurture until later even after the implementation and the monitoring of our progress when we were already back home. So… we are in the 4th month of pregnancy after the first and only attempt. I am sure that I would say the same things about our SA experience even if the outcomes were different.
Warmly recommending! Good luck…
