“I thank you for your part in my journey”

A heart warming message from an amazing recipient who’s donor donated a second time, so that she, the recipient will have the opportunity to have a biological sibling for her first child:heart trio

“I had my 7 week appointment with the Dr today and I am so pleased to say I am pregnant with TWO beautiful babies!!

I am so grateful to Nurture and more importantly to my donor who agreed to donate again.  I have a lovely handsome son and now he will not be lonely, he will have two siblings.

I know I can’t communicate with the donor but please send my biggest thanks to her for giving me this precious gift of being a parent again. I know it’s God’s work and plan but he had a reason for me choosing this lovely woman! My son is peaceful and courteous and I am making sure he grows up to be the leader that I know he is.

I don’t have the words but THANK YOU. I am in tears writing this from both excitement and joy. 

The whole Vitalab team shared in my joy today, it was so wonderful to see.

I won’t stop. So let me stop here. 

Thank you to all of you.

Love always

xx”

15 reasons to get off the fence and become an egg donor…

  1.  905a6f5c3adfad5714024fe2e2734f56You’ll get to witness the wonders of modern medicine first hand.
  2. It will make you feel powerful in your ability to make positive social change.
  3. Many women and men desperately need eggs to make their families, and you could help them do that.
  4. The entire egg donation process only takes 2-3 months, and only 2 weeks of that is active participation
  5. You’ll learn more about your body, your menstrual cycle, and human reproduction in general
  6. Donating eggs will give you an appreciation of the beauty and power of your body
  7. Donating eggs will give you an amazing symbolic connection to your fellow human beings
  8. The experience will deepen your capacity to empathize with others’ suffering
  9. If your recipient is infertile, you can raise public awareness about infertility
  10. If your recipient is gay, you can raise public awareness about gay parenting
  11. “I’m an egg donor” makes a great conversation starter at parties.
  12.  You’ll be able to look back on the experience with pride
  13. It is your opportunity to ‘pay it forward’ with some very good karma sent out to the universe.
  14. You’ll be a member of a very small, very unique “sorority” of women who have donated eggs to others.
  15. You will have the fantastic, wonderful, awesome experience of having the country’s best egg donor team support you through the process – the Nurture team are like a best friend times a million!!

Adapted from an article written by Abbie Waters

“How blessed we have been to receive her special gift”

6bc4ad693b8ed04235678a14d4a0bb30I just wanted to let you know that I have had the big scan and everything is fine. We are thrilled to announce that we are expecting two beautiful girls, we couldn’t be happier!

It has been a very emotional time for us and we have tried not to get too excited, just in case. I finally feel like I can breathe a little now!

We are filled with hope and joy at the prospect of holding our precious darlings. Thank you so much for making our dreams come true.

Please can you let our donor know our wonderful news. I often think of her – what an amazing woman she is and how blessed we have been to receive her special gift!

xx

“With the holiday season virtually upon us, now is the time to reserve your donor for a baby-filled 2015″

07e1fbb06cd6c4354bfa41670287f8f8With only 9 Thursday’s left until Christmas, did you know that many of the clinics close for 2-3 weeks for the Holiday Season?

We are on our final push to get all cycles completed before the Holiday season! Contact us to view over 160 profiles of donors who are available to donate immediately.

And for those planning a January cycle, now is the time to reserve your donor for a baby-filled 2015!

“I would do it again in a heartbeat”

0daa4d25bf9af1db86f4c979f92e8cd1I’ve just got back home now from a wonderful stay in Cape Town. 

I just want to thank you for the amazing assistance I received from the Nurture team and the great stay at the guest house. The whole process from the time I was first told that I had been chosen as a donor until I got back home was absolutely wonderful! Everyone at the Cape Fertility Clinic was so pleasant and friendly too!

It truly was such an amazing experience and I would do it again in a heartbeat! I really pray and hope that everything works out well for the recipient.

xx

“This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish”

Tammuz ad copy“I do not have the words to explain how I am feeling right now. I just left the clinic after my egg retrieval.  I’m sooo emotional from all the happiness.

I feel super blessed to have had the opportunity to donate and think it was all so worth it. I cannot express enough how grateful I am for the couple who chose me. I can’t seem to stop crying. This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish!

Please tell the recipient parents that I got their gift and I appreciate it more than they could ever know, I hope and pray for every success with this journey ahead of them.

Thank you to Nurture and the staff at Vitalab too, they really were amazing. I hope to do this again soon.

Good luck & God bless xx”

How to find a suitable egg donor ?

b41f731086d21bc0c9a1662b9c55f63fOnce people have decided to enlist the assistance of an egg donor to have a baby, they need to find a suitable egg donor. Something that if done on your own, can feel very much like going on a blind date, blind-folded.

Selecting an egg donor is not too unlike online dating where you can view the profiles of an overwhelming number of potential suitors. Only, in this case, your ‘matchmaking’ service is not a dating service website, but an egg donation agency who knows that this is not just about a once off event, but instead understands that choosing the right donor is one of the most important decisions you will make for your future family. After selecting a reputable egg donor agency, donor recipients will have access to the agency’s database of egg donors from where they will be able to peruse and review a variety of egg donor profiles. Egg donors are healthy young female volunteers between the ages of 21 and 34 years old. In South Africa, an egg donor’s identity is never revealed – which is why future parents are only able to view baby and toddler photos  of their donor. This is to protect the donor’s anonymity

But in order to make sure that donors select the right person, all the egg donor profiles contain extensive and detailed information about the donor: From her physical traits, full medical history, family information, academic information, personality traits, interests, social as well as professional aspects. In fact, you will get to know virtually everything about her, except her real name. Her profile should also state her egg donation stipulations and availability.

These detailed profiles allow the recipients to make an informed choice and to ultimately select someone who closely matches their own uniqueness in attributes and physical appearance.

All efforts are undertaken by a reputable egg donor agency to optimise the process for egg donors and their recipients to make the process as efficient as possible and to increase the success rate of conception. An established egg donation agency will be able to effectively guide and support recipients about selecting the right profiled egg donor. It is important that people have access to a solid and reputable egg donor database.

When egg donation recipients find ‘the one’, that ideal candidate who is the right fit for them, they will most often experience contentment and peace when reading the egg donor profile. Sometimes it’s a ‘gut feel’ thing, othertimes it’s a ‘connection’ that takes place when you read a specific profile.  But no matter how you choose your perfect donor, it is vital that the ‘matchmaking’ agency makes the process as comforting and fulfilling as possible.

Nurture gals….privileged to be working from home

e07bb633c0a774c5267c6451025c2d25The fabulous Nurture gals are very fortunate to have the privilege of working from home (some may call it a blessing!). Admittedly it does pose its challenges i.e. knowing when to stop working (because we absolutely LOVE what we do!), knowing how to say no to those friends who want to go hang out at Vida, learning how to balance work, family, chores and errands without burning one’s self out. We all have amusing stories to share about managing husband and kids demands, multi- tasking, neglecting one’s appearance, juggling the demands of the office and dealing with stepping out of the comfort zone when the time comes to refrain from working in one’s pajama’s and to make an actual appearance in person.

Over the years we’ve learned to really appreciate the obvious benefits of not having to commute to and from an office and waste hours away in crazy traffic jams.  Let us not forget the savings on fuel and vehicle maintenance, on ludicrous phone bills (after all what else is a woman to do in traffic other than catch up with girlfriends?) and on uncomfortable business attire (which we all hate anyway!).

Having the ability to work from our beds on those dreary winter days, to sneak in the odd mani, to share in the day to day tribulations of child rearing and most importantly being available when our families need us, as well as having the luxury of being able to spend more time with our precious families are perks one cannot put a price to.

All of this whilst contributing to the household income and helping make a huge difference to the lives of other people which is something we’re all so passionate about, we wouldn’t change it for the world!

What makes a good Egg Donor Agency?

tertia kim gerida webWhen you’ve made the important decision to start or expand your family through egg donation, the next vital step you need to take is to select a reputable egg donation agency.

A great egg donation agency is a bit like a doctor with a great bedside manner.  An understanding best friend who is always willing to listen and an attentive councillor, who can guide you through challenging times all rolled into one! Infertility is a tough, lonely place – you need all the help you can get, to keep your sanity and your sense of humour intact.

Not only will a good agency provide you with a large database of wonderful and carefully pre-screened egg donors to choose from, but it will ensure that you receive excellent service from them as well as from the fertility clinic where you will be treated, every step of the way. This means that there will be constant interaction and intervention between the agency, the fertility clinic and the egg donor, and that you will be kept well informed at all times during the process.

An egg donor program that is managed and facilitated by a really good egg donation agency, will help donor recipients to better understand the process, answer any and all questions with patience and clarity. This will save prospective recipients from the trouble of having to wade through and trying to comprehend any medical or legal issues that they would like to clarify.

In South Africa, egg donor agencies are primarily located in the major cities such as Cape Town, Johannesburg, Pretoria and Durban. In some instances, donor agencies have donors who are willing to travel to other cities to participate in the program.

When choosing a donor agency, prospective donor egg recipients need to explore important criteria such as the agency’s reputation, its affordability, efficiency, availability of egg donors, professionalism, the period of time it has been in existence, its association with top fertility clinics in the area and the quality of its service.

Another aspect that makes an egg donation agency excellent is its commitment to continuously expand and keep fresh its database of profiled egg donors by recruiting new donors. A great agency will also offer immediate feedback to any queries pertaining to egg donation fertility treatment.

A good egg donor agency doesn’t over promise and under-deliver. A good egg donor agency makes sure that all their donors that are listed as available, ARE available and meet the prescribed criteria. A good egg donor agency knows that by the time a recipient couple has reached the point of egg donation, they are tired, heartbroken and financially and emotionally depleted.  A good egg donor agency does their utmost to ensure that this is the last chapter of the journey that ends with the words  “….and they all lived happily ever after”.

“Know that you are special”

heart balloonThere really are some phenomenal people in this world.  Sadly we don’t always get the results we hope for with every cycle, yet despite a negative outcome our incredibly brave recipient had this to say to her donor:

“We wanted you to know that although there was a negative outcome, our perception of you is this…..

It takes an extremely special person to be willing to put their lives on hold, to medicate themself and to go through a medical procedure in order to give a stranger an opportunity to begin their family. These actions are evidence of a compassionate soul with a big heart.

We would like to say thank you. Know that you are special! xx