The New Year brings with it new opportunities and possibilities and for many, a sense of renewed hope to achieve their dream of a family. For those struggling with infertility, the start of a year can come with mixed feelings. The holiday season can be a harsh reminder of the lack of a child in the family. For many women, a new year also means a year older, that biological clock is ticking away and the pressure to conceive soon is heightened.
Now that the year is well on the way, although not easy, it’s time to put the disappointments of the past aside and focus on your future journey of creating your family via egg donation. With an egg donor’s precious gift, you could be pregnant within three months and well on your way to parenthood!
The fabulous Nurture team have first hand experience and a very real understanding of infertility. We know that it can be hard to know where to start and whom to trust when it takes more than two to create a family.
Choosing an egg donor is a very personal decision. With physical attributes, character traits, a sound family history and optimal fertility health aside, you as the intended parent are looking for the perfect “fit” for your family. Finding your perfect donor is crucial to you feeling ready to take the next steps and begin the process of creating your family via egg donation. With 7 years experience in the egg donation field and over 160 donors available immediately, Nurture will help you do that.
At Nurture, helping you realise your dream of a family is our passion – we connect your chosen egg donor and if required, you with the clinic that is right for you and your family. We offer support and guidance throughout every step of your egg donation journey.
Welcome to 2015 –new beginnings and here’s hoping, a baby-filled one too!
WOW!!! I can’t believe my second egg donation is done and dusted and I got the opportunity to be in a position to help as a donor again!
Not only is it the best feeling in the world, but the Nurture team are amazing! My health and safety was top priority to them. Mel was supportive during the entire process, which I am so grateful for. Nurture and the entire CFC team of staff are so professional and friendly.
Not everyone understands what being an egg donor is all about, it’s not just taking a bunch of pills and injections, you are helping someone/a couple become a family. The entire process is humbling and to have the opportunity to help someone in need is heart-warming.
I’m looking forward to being an egg donor again in the future.
To my recipient – may this be the start of an amazing journey, I hope that it is everything you hoped for – and lots more!”
Now this is why we LOVE our jobs! Another pair of beautiful baby girls joined the ‘Nurture’ family yesterday. Congratulations to the new parents and a BIG thank you to their amazing egg donor for her precious gift!!
Just had to share our wonderful, wonderful news. xxxxx and xxxxxx arrived late this afternoon at 36 weeks, a minute apart.
Finally our family is complete, all thanks to you amazing ladies, of course. Words escape me…
Our hearts are overflowing with love for our precious darlings. My husband and I cannot stop crying!
It is really fulfilling to know that I have gifted two sets of parents with something that is truly priceless
“Gerida was totally amazing (give that woman a Bells!) and spoilt me rotten with the support she gave me throughout each egg donation experience. It is really fulfilling to know that I have gifted two sets of parents with something that is truly priceless.
With that being said, Nurture has been so good to me but I feel like I have done enough. Maybe in the future I will donate again but for now, and for the most part, I am done.
It was really such a blast and a truly unique experience. Thank you for giving me this unique platform to express my womanhood!”
Our special Recipient had this to say:
“We are about to head back to Sydney after two weeks in your beautiful city.
The egg donation process has been a very positive experience for us and we are eternally grateful to our donor for giving us such a wonderful gift and opportunity. We hope she is doing well. Please pass on our gratitude to her for all of her commitment, effort and sincerity. We are optimistic for a positive result but whatever happens our value for what she has done for us will remain forever.
Also, many thanks to you and Nurture for everything you have done for us. You have given us such a warm and understanding response to everything right from the initial point of contact. Keep up the good work as we might even be back again
We have taken in all the Cape Town touristy stuff and have been amazed by this City and its surrounds. We are not surprised that Cape Town has been rated the world’s top tourist destination, nothing can compare. We also met your friendly baboons at Cape Point. In fact, we survived your lions, leopards, rhinos, hippos and elephants (which came pretty close) as well!
Thanks again and we will be in touch”
“I’m not much of a soppy, emotional person, but that was beautiful – thank you! I’m quite impressed I’ve donated to a foreign family!
It’s been such a great opportunity, this whole donation process. I didn’t know what to expect in the beginning, but I knew in my mind it would be rewarding. Please tell my recipient family it’s been the biggest pleasure to be a part of their journey. If someone is willing to invest so much time, effort, and money into having children I truly believe the child(ren) will grow up in an extremely privileged family.
I’m holding thumbs and crossing fiingers for great success
You are a healthy young woman between the age of 21 and 34 and you have seen an advertisement or have somehow become aware of egg donation. Perhaps you have a relative or friend who has been unable to conceive and you’ve witnessed her plight and heartbreak firsthand. Or maybe you know a fabulous same sex couple or a singleton that also yearns to have a child.
No matter how you became aware or why you were initially inspired to donate, here is what you can expect once you embark on this journey as an egg donor.
First, you have to fill out a detailed application form at your preferred donor agency (make sure you are with an agency that is first class, Nurture obviously!). Typical information you would have to disclose includes your physical traits such as your height, weight, eye colour, natural hair colour; personality traits; your educational history; medical history; etc.
You’ll also be required to supply photographs of yourself as a baby, a toddler and a young child (up to the age of ten). Once you have been selected to be on the agency’s database of registered donors, this information and the photographs is what the prospective recipients of your donor eggs will have access to. The donor agency may also expect you to provide a recent photograph of yourself for their own records, but since egg donors remain anonymous in South Africa, the prospective donor egg recipients will never get to see a photograph of you as an adult or find out what your real name and contact details are.
If the agency accepts you based on your application form, you’ll have a face to face meeting with an agency coordinator to discuss moving forward. This is one of many opportunities you will get to ask all the questions you want to ask, and to discuss once again exactly what is involved in the donation process.
If you are still keen, your profile is added to the donor agency’s database and prospective recipients will immediately start viewing your profile information.
Once a donor recipient decides that YOU are the chosen one based on your profile – and this can take anything from days or weeks to months – you will have two initial appointments at the fertility clinic, one with the gynaecologist and one with the psychologist. Once the clinic receives all the results and is all is found to be in order, you will be put on a contraceptive pill for the next 6 – 8 weeks (provided that you are not already on one.)
The actual donation process will therefore begin approximately 6 – 8 weeks after that initial appointment with the doctor and psychologist.
About a week before you’ll begin treatment, you’ll have another brief appointment at the clinic to collect all your relevant medication. Please note that you as the donor do not have to pay for any of the doctor’s appointments, assessments or medication pertaining to the egg donor program. You may have to miss classes or work for some of your appointments, but doctor’s notes will be supplied for any/all visits. It is for this inconvenience, for all your petrol and for all the effort you’ve made that you will receive the financial compensation of R6 000.
On the first day of your menstrual cycle after you’ve begun taking the contraceptive, you will book an appointment for your Day 8 scan. On the third day, you will begin the daily hormone injections. On Day 8, you will have your first scan. From then until Day 12, you will receive the second and third scans. Depending on how well your body has responded to the hormonal treatment, you should be undergoing the egg retrieval procedure approximately 14 days after starting the treatment.
The Egg Retrieval Process
The actual procedure only takes about 20 – 30 minutes with about an hour recovery time at the clinic. The name of the procedure you will undergo is called an oocyte (egg) aspiration. During it, the doctor will pass a needle through your upper vagina into each ovary to extract the mature eggs. The doctor uses an ultrasound to guide him/her through the process. Since the eggs are only a tenth of a millimetre in size, they can be easily sucked through a needle. The eggs grow in follicles which are bubbles of water which are 2cm in size. The needle pierces the follicles and sucks the water out with the egg in it.
During the procedure, you will be placed under intravenous sedation for comfort called ‘twilight sedation’. It is a type of anaesthetic technique during which the patient is sedated, but not entirely unconscious. It is just like regular anaesthesia, in that it uses many of the same drugs (but in lower dosages) and is also designed to make the patient feel more comfortable, but it carries fewer risks. Although the patient may not be entirely asleep, but in a ‘twilight’ state or light sleep, the anaesthesia also relieves the anxiety on the part of the patient, ensures that the patient feels no pain during the procedure and creates a state of amnesia so that the patient won’t remember the procedure later on.
The drugs used in twilight anaesthesia are fast acting and quick to reverse, so patients can be woken up in a matter of minutes.
If you feel uncomfortable or anxious about the level of sedation, feel free to discuss it with the doctor and he will ensure that you are given extra medication to sedate you more.
After a brief recovery from the anaesthesia, you will be able to go home. Someone must be there to drive you home. Once at home, you should rest for the remainder of the day. Just relax and make sure that you stay hydrated.
Some donors experience some spotting and mild discomfort after the procedure (akin to menstrual cramps), but a general painkiller (such as myprodol) should provide adequate relief.
Donors who have completed the procedure will have to avoid having unprotected sex until the completion of their next menstrual cycle, since she will be extremely fertile. So if you do not want a pregnancy of your own just yet, just remember: no glove, no love!
Over the next few weeks, the donor agency will remain in touch with you to let you know whether your donation had resulted in a pregnancy or not.
Should you be interested in helping someone create the family they’ve longed for, get in touch with us here.
Are you an active or retired egg donor? Or perhaps you have just completed your final egg donation (sob!) but still want to help spread the word about becoming an egg donor? You’ve come to the right place!
One of our biggest challenges is getting the message out to the fabulous, kind, generous, selfless, amazing and like-minded women out there… and YOU can help us to make a huge difference! We need your assistance with recruiting more wonderful women just like yourself! After all, no one knows better than you how truly rewarding it is to be a Nurture egg donor!
To kick start what could be life-changing for someone, please shout out to your friends, family members, colleagues, acquaintances, Facebook peeps and spread the word! You can do this easily by sharing this link
Lets think about it, if each of you were to tell a friend (or 10!), think how many people could be reached (their friends, friends of friends and even more friends) who might be willing to help someone else create the family they’ve struggled for and dream of.
So, you have a person in mind, how does it work ?
- She will need to meet Nurture’s basic requirements listed here
- She needs to complete Nurture’s online application found here
- She MUST reference YOU in the original application under the heading of “How did you hear about Nurture”
- Once she becomes an “ACTIVE” donor on Nurture’s database, we will pay you the referral donor bonus fee. We are firm believers that sharing is caring after all!
If you’d like to be a guest blogger and share your donation journey through us, please let us know! We’d love to highlight your specific journey and perhaps you too will inspire others to support the potential recipients out there!
Should you or your referral have any questions about the process please get in touch with us at email@example.com
As the festive season fast approaches, people are franticly preparing for the start of the school holidays, planning their get-away, braving the malls and not to mention the parade of Christmas holidays just around the corner. With all this on the go, it is heartwarming to see that there are still many young women looking for ways to make a difference. You’ve come to the right place!
Making a difference in the lives of others does not need to be a big heroic act or cost an arm and a leg! Even simple gestures, done with the greatest intentions can bring huge joy and really make a positive impact on the lives of others.
The list is endless, but here are a few acts that you can do to help towards making a difference in someone’s life.
- Donate any unused items (clothing, bedding, food, books, toys) to a local charity of your choice. They are clogging up space in your home and can still be put to good use by someone who is less fortunate than you
- Volunteer at your local animal shelter. Take the doggies for a walk
- Volunteer at a Children’s home or orphanage – read stories, play with the children – they love the individual attention and their happiness really is food for one’s soul!
- Visit the elderly. Many are “stranded” with no family or friends to visit them. A cup of tea and your youthful energy is a breath of fresh air for them.
- Be a clown at the paediatric ward in your local government hospital. Laughs and giggles are their best medicine! Many little one’s families are too far away for regular visits
- Bake biscuits / hand out sweets to the street children
- Donate blood – the blood banks never have too much and the demand rises during accident peak season
- Become an egg donor. Many people dream about becoming parents and having their own children. In all likelihood, having had a heartbreaking year fighting infertility, it is especially hard at this “family orientated” time of the year. By being an egg donor you are giving hope to people who long for and have struggled for a family of their own! You really can be their light at the end of a very dark tunnel and help make their dreams come true!
We know there are many things women can do to help people. If becoming an egg donor is something you would like to learn more about, please do get in touch, Nurture would love to welcome you to our program.
One of our special egg donors shares her egg donation journey through Nurture:
“I’ve had all sorts of reactions to my decision, ranging from “Are you MAD?” to “That’s incredible!” from “Aren’t you petrified of the needles?” to “Aren’t you worried that one day your recipient’s baby [from your egg] might meet and develop a relationship with one of your own children?”
To answer briefly – I don’t think I’m mad at all. I have two BEAUTIFUL children who are happy and healthy. Needles schmeedles. The inconvenience of a handful of jabs is far less to me than the years of desperation and sadness that a woman struggling with infertility would experience”
With special thanks to Nicki Dadic xx