“I will never forget your kindness and compassion during my journey”

We received the most beautiful email from one of our amazing recipients. Thank you so much for your touching update, we are honoured to have been able to help!! Congratulations!! xx

597701f0e8f0b1ed0aa9283a5cdc667c “Hello lovely ladies

I know you are all very busy in the lead up to Xmas. I hope you have a wonderful time with your families and loved ones and are able to enjoy some well earned  time out. There will always be a special place in my heart for each one of you and I will never forget your kindness and compassion during my journey.

Our little girls are coming along beautifully and I will be 33 weeks tomorrow. At my last scan it was apparent that the bigger twin is trying very hard to push out her sister. Is this a sign of sibling rivalry to come? I am being very closely monitored because it puts me at much greater risk of early labour and may also compromise the little one. I have had steroids just in case and met with my Doctor today. We are going to bring the c section forward and have set tentative dates. I can’t believe how close it is now and whilst I am prepared for their stint in the neo natal unit (well sort of!), I cannot wait to see and hold them.

It’s such a special time and I feel incredibly blessed to be carrying these beautiful babies. Thank you so much for making my dreams come true. Please let our egg donor know how amazing she is and that we are doing just fine. Both babies are a good size so we are confident that everything will be ok.

With much love

xxx

Whatever happens, our value for what she has done for us will remain forever!

Our special Recipient had this to say:

“We are about to head back to Sydney after two weeks in your beautiful city.

The egg donation process has been a very positive experience for us and we are eternally grateful to our donor for giving us such a wonderful gift and opportunity. We hope she is doing well. Please pass on our gratitude to her for all of her commitment, effort and sincerity. We are optimistic for a positive result but whatever happens our value for what she has done for us will remain forever.

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Also, many thanks to you and Nurture for everything you have done for us. You have given us such a warm and understanding response to everything right from the initial point of contact. Keep up the good work as we might even be back again :-)

We have taken in all the Cape Town touristy stuff and have been amazed by this City and its surrounds. We are not surprised that Cape Town has been rated the world’s top tourist destination, nothing can compare. We also met your friendly baboons at Cape Point. In fact, we survived your lions, leopards, rhinos, hippos and elephants (which came pretty close) as well!

Thanks again and we will be in touch”

xxx

Thumbs upand in response, her incredible egg donor had this to say:

“I’m not much of a soppy, emotional person, but that was beautiful – thank you! I’m quite impressed I’ve donated to a foreign family!

It’s been such a great opportunity, this whole donation process. I didn’t know what to expect in the beginning, but I knew in my mind it would be rewarding.  Please tell my recipient family it’s been the biggest pleasure to be a part of their journey. If someone is willing to invest so much time, effort, and money into having children I truly believe the child(ren) will grow up in an extremely privileged family.

I’m holding thumbs and crossing fiingers for great success :-)

xoxox”

Another egg donation…done and dusted!

02d7c2ad9c5ad9a5592eb973e194e2ed“Thank you!  It was a great experience and I can’t wait to hear the results!  I am holding everything that I can… crossed for my recipients!

I will definitely do it again! And, I made a full recovery with no problems whatsoever!! :-)

“Egg donation: The ultimate gift”

44232cb7e610e767efda8e042dfb8c6e“After years of not being able to fall pregnant more South African women are turning to egg donation IVF to become mothers.  Dominique Oosthuizen explores how through egg donation women struggling to fall pregnant can have children.

Receiving the gift of life

Slowly the eggs (oocytes) are extracted through the vagina of the donor with a small needle. These eggs are her hope for a family.  These eggs carry her dream to become a mother.

They are carefully fertilised in an in vitro fertilisation (IVF) laboratory with her husband’s sperm. The embryos are then cultured and grown over the next few days until the doctor cautiously transfer the embryos into her womb.

From these two cells all the babies’ organs and body parts will develop. From these two layers of cells a little miracle will form.

“When I saw their heartbeats for the first time it was surreal,” tells a donor egg recipient. “I cried and I cried and I cried. Finally! Finally it was my turn to become a mother.”

As she had only disclosed to her close family and friends of her journey with egg donation IVF the recipient decided to remain anonymous.

“There was no black or white explanation on why I could not conceive children, but I was determined to be a mother.

“Through the donation someone was able to give me such a selfless gift,” she says with great thankfulness to the anonymous donor.

She lightly laughs and adds, “The donor actually gave me twice the gift — she gave me twins. She helped me reach a dream that I once thought was unreachable.”

Donating agencies: collectors of apples

“The process of donating eggs can be compared to the collection of fruit,” says Jenny Curry, the owner of Baby2mom, a company that facilitates the egg donation process by co-ordinating the donor and the recipient.

“Every month a woman loses a certain amount of eggs — just as an apple tree will lose apples,” she explains.

“But, if you stand there with a basket to collect the apples it just means that they are going to good use. Those who are not collected will fall to the earth and rot.”

She says that instead of losing your eggs through menstruation they can rather be collected and put into good use.

“Egg donation is an extraordinary life-changing gift. It is a gift that offers hope to women who previously thought they could never have children.”

According to Curry, women who are in good health and who do not have any genetic illnesses or concerns can donate their eggs.

Companies such as Baby2mom, Nurture, and Gift ov Life have online databases where possible recipients can look at a profile of all the possible donors.

“The donor’s profile will among others provide a recipient with information about the donor’s physical profile, education/occupation, and behavioural traits,” she explains. Adding that the donor’s identity will remain anonymous.

“When a donor commits to donating her eggs she has the ethical responsibility to participate in the process as instructed,” says Curry.

“When the donor completes the process and does what is expected of her, she will receive a donation of R 6000 as approved by the South African Health Department.”

She emphasises that it is a donation and not a payment. “It is a gift for the donor’s effort, the incurred medical cost and the time the donor had put into someone else’s dream.”

According to Curry the donor has no rights towards a child that is conceived through egg donation.

“South African law says that the birth mother holds all the rights and responsibility when it comes to the child. Legally the child is the recipient’s child.”

Donating the ultimate gift

“We are born with over 2 million eggs and we lose them during our lifetime,” says Jamaine Krige, an egg donor who has donated eggs twice. “If they are going to be lost why not give them to someone that can benefit from it?

“We all know someone that is struggling to have a baby. While having children is not a priority for me right now — I know the importance that it carries to a lot of women,” she says.

“For the recipient it means the world. You are helping them get the family they have always wanted.”

Krige explains that egg donation is an important process. “Unlike adoption or surrogacy it actually affords the women a chance to play a part in the process of giving birth to her baby.

“The donor might provide the genetic material for conception, but the recipient still carries the baby. She still nurtures the baby in her womb.

“She plays a vital part in bringing the baby in to this life.”

Doctor’s advice 

Dr Paul le Roux, a reproductive medicine specialist at Cape Fertility Clinic, says that infertility exists when a women is unable to conceive after 12 months of unprotected intercourse.

“Ovarian failure may be due to previous chemotherapy, radiotherapy and/or prior surgery,” he says.  Adding that infertility can also be due to poor egg quality because of age related deterioration or due to inherited genetic conditions.

According to Le Roux one in every three women, above the age of 40, will not be able to conceive naturally and will need fertility treatment in order to get pregnant.

Le Roux explains that once an egg-recipient has found a donor, either through a donor agency or through someone they know, both the donor and the recipient will see a fertility specialist for treatment.

“The recipient will have medication to prepare her womb lining for the embryo transfer, while the donor will have medication to grow the eggs. The donor will have to take daily injections of Follicle-stimulating Hormone (FSH) for approximately 10 days,” he expands.

“The donor will then be monitored with trans-vaginal ultrasound every couple of days until the eggs are ready to be extracted.”

According to Le Roux the IVF success rate in South Africa is approximately 35% per embryo transfer.

The reproductive specialist says egg donors should preferably between the age of 21 and 34 as “any eggs of a donor, older than 34, might decrease the success rate of the IVF”.

He also says for health reason the South African Society of Reproductive Medicine and Gynaecological Endoscopy (SASREG) suggest that oocyte donors should be limited to 6 donations.

“Medical risks for the egg donor are generally small, but risks may include ovarian hyper-stimulation syndrome, pelvic infection, ovarian torsion, intra-abdominal bleeding, loss of future fertility and anaesthetic complications,” says Le Roux.

A mother’s words

“A mother is a woman who will love her children unconditionally until her last breath,” says the egg donor recipient.

“As a mother you choose to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own. As a mother you will have your patience tested to the ends of the earth.

“You will learn about your personal strengths you did not know you had and you will deal with fears you did not know existed. No greater privilege exists. Everybody deserves to be a mother.”

With thanks to journalism student, Dominique Oosthuizen for sharing her investigation into the Egg Donation industry with us!

What an awesome way to start our Sunday!

4ecbdf33151304f43784881b9bf4dad0“Just a quick note to introduce our gorgeous little boy!

He was born at 36w+3, is absolutely beautiful and is doing great.

I would like to say a special thank you to you all for everything, we couldn’t have received this special little boy without you! xx”

“Thank you”

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We always check in with our donors post egg retrieval,  how lovely it is to get feedback like this:

“I appreciate the feedback, I wish the recipients all the best. I would also like to thank you for the gift and for making me feel special, constantly!”

“I thank you for your part in my journey”

A heart warming message from an amazing recipient who’s donor donated a second time, so that she, the recipient will have the opportunity to have a biological sibling for her first child:heart trio

“I had my 7 week appointment with the Dr today and I am so pleased to say I am pregnant with TWO beautiful babies!!

I am so grateful to Nurture and more importantly to my donor who agreed to donate again.  I have a lovely handsome son and now he will not be lonely, he will have two siblings.

I know I can’t communicate with the donor but please send my biggest thanks to her for giving me this precious gift of being a parent again. I know it’s God’s work and plan but he had a reason for me choosing this lovely woman! My son is peaceful and courteous and I am making sure he grows up to be the leader that I know he is.

I don’t have the words but THANK YOU. I am in tears writing this from both excitement and joy. 

The whole Vitalab team shared in my joy today, it was so wonderful to see.

I won’t stop. So let me stop here. 

Thank you to all of you.

Love always

xx”

“How blessed we have been to receive her special gift”

6bc4ad693b8ed04235678a14d4a0bb30I just wanted to let you know that I have had the big scan and everything is fine. We are thrilled to announce that we are expecting two beautiful girls, we couldn’t be happier!

It has been a very emotional time for us and we have tried not to get too excited, just in case. I finally feel like I can breathe a little now!

We are filled with hope and joy at the prospect of holding our precious darlings. Thank you so much for making our dreams come true.

Please can you let our donor know our wonderful news. I often think of her – what an amazing woman she is and how blessed we have been to receive her special gift!

xx

“Know that you are special”

heart balloonThere really are some phenomenal people in this world.  Sadly we don’t always get the results we hope for with every cycle, yet despite a negative outcome our incredibly brave recipient had this to say to her donor:

“We wanted you to know that although there was a negative outcome, our perception of you is this…..

It takes an extremely special person to be willing to put their lives on hold, to medicate themself and to go through a medical procedure in order to give a stranger an opportunity to begin their family. These actions are evidence of a compassionate soul with a big heart.

We would like to say thank you. Know that you are special! xx

Our special recipient is expecting twins….

eggs2 copy“Please can you let “D” know that everything is just awesome. I am so overwhelmed to have such special gifts and indebted to you all for making our miracles happen. Words fail me.

Much love”