“You made this whole process so easy”.

 

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Nurture take pride in guiding, supporting and caring for both our recipients and egg donors throughout their donation cycle.  Our recipient had this to say during her cycle….

“Thank you so much. It has been an absolute pleasure dealing with your organisation. You made this whole process so easy.

We sincerely appreciate your help”.

Egg donation is a beautiful gift!

Another beautiful baby girl has made her entrance into the world. Special thanks to their amazing egg donor for making this dream a reality for her parents. Egg donation is a beautiful gift!

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“We are now the very proud parents of the most beautiful and sweetest little girl.

She is now 7 weeks old, growing at a pace and charming us with her gurgles, coos and magical smiles. She seems to be a chatterbox and loves to ‘talk’. 

We are so immensely grateful to your organization for giving us the opportunity to have her. I could never have imagined the joy and love that this little baby brings us and she has totally transformed our lives in the most perfect ways.”

“Our experience with Nurture was amazing!”

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“Just wanted to let you guys know that our baby boy was born a few days ago. He is absolutely divine and we are so glad we didn’t give up! He is the love of our life and just wanted to say a very big thank you to you and the team at Nurture.

Our experience through the whole process with Nurture was amazing!”

 

 

Beautiful words from our egg donor recipient….

“Even though you must have been through hundreds of egg donations, I felt that you understood what it was like for me as a first time recipient. You were patient, and always available – you answered questions that I should have been able to ask my doctor but didn’t feel comfortable doing. You literally changed my life – our beautiful daughter was born 4 years ago and is everything to us.

Thank you Nurture xxx”

Wonderful news from our egg donor recipient

“I’m happy to let you know that indeed a baby boy was born on the 6th January 2016.  We are both doing very well and he is two months old today.

No words can describe our excitement for the successful treatment.  We are so grateful for your assistance and professionalism in the way you treated us throughout the whole process.

God continue to bless and keep you, so you may continue to help people like us.

Thanking you, always”

 

 

Beautiful words from our incredible egg donor

heart“It was no trouble at all, in fact the whole process was a breeze and I was feeling back to normal again on Monday evening – I am extremely pleased about the fact that they could retrieve so many and am really hoping the recipient is able to fall pregnant.
To the recipient family:
I came across a beautiful poem that instantly made me think of you.
“I Will Be A Wonderful Mother – Author Unknown
There are women who become mothers without effort, without thought,
without patience or loss, and though they are good mothers and love
their children, I know that I will be better.
 
I will be better not because of genetics or money or because I have
read more books, but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
 
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed. I have endured and
planned over and over again. Like most things in life, the people who
truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their
dreams.
I will notice everything about my child. I will take time to watch my
child sleep, explore, and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every
day for the rest of my life.
 
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of
my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold, and feed him and that I am
not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another
shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
 
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight,
this special vision with which I will look upon my child. Whether I
parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me
to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured.
 
Yes, I will be a wonderful mother.”
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I know that you will be a wonderful mother. I would like to thank you for giving me the opportunity to go through this journey with you, even though we have no contact, it felt comforting to know that there was someone out there going through something similar and that I was in their thoughts as they were in mine. Also I would like to say thank you for my beautiful card, it might have been the hormones but it definitely made me tear up. You both will be forever in my thoughts and I wish for you all the happiness in the world and that you are able to make your dream of having a little bundle of joy come true.
I have no words that can possibly express my gratitude and admiration for both of you.
You will be forever in my heart.
xx”

“This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish”

Tammuz ad copy“I do not have the words to explain how I am feeling right now. I just left the clinic after my egg retrieval.  I’m sooo emotional from all the happiness.

I feel super blessed to have had the opportunity to donate and think it was all so worth it. I cannot express enough how grateful I am for the couple who chose me. I can’t seem to stop crying. This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish!

Please tell the recipient parents that I got their gift and I appreciate it more than they could ever know, I hope and pray for every success with this journey ahead of them.

Thank you to Nurture and the staff at Vitalab too, they really were amazing. I hope to do this again soon.

Good luck & God bless xx”

“I could not believe something I had done made someone else so incredibly happy”

4fdfc2a9b00dd7bb8c7e3a7b21ea89e3“I started out feeling all excited when I was chosen by the intended parents to become their egg donor. I went for my internal scan, my first ever which was quite scary with me not knowing what to expect. I got my injections and started the process.

Today I went in for my egg retrieval, I had mixed feelings of nervousness and excitement all in one!  When I came out of theatre the lovely clinic nurse came to see me and brought me a lovely gift, which I really did not expect from my recipient parents! As soon as I got it I burst into tears, I could not believe something I had done made someone else so incredibly happy! I felt overjoyed and so emotional, all I could think was “Wow! I just did something selfless for someone I do not know” and that made me feel proud and like a very special person.

I pray, hope and believe that the parents will get their miracle. I cannot thank them enough for picking me to be a part of the joyful journey that lies ahead of them and the many treasured memories!!

Good luck to them and thank you Nurture for doing such amazing, selfless work!!”

“There is no greater gift to give” – one donor shares her story

My stomach is bloated and uncomfortable. I sit and it cramps, I stand and I experience the most excruciating spasms in my abdomen. The day of the operation has arrived. My eggs are ready and soon this will all be over. The waiting room is buzzing as usual with all the happiness in the world, but I am sitting here in complete silence thinking back on the past three months of my life.

It all started on the night of 28th April 2012. A night never to be forgotten. Sitting among friends when my cellphone vibrated on my leg as I received an email. An email that I had been craving for a long time: “Fabulous news! YOU have been selected by a recipient as their egg donor…” Little did I know that what was going to follow was a ride of emotions and pain that I could never have imagined.

The beginning of my journey started with an interview. I was shaking from head to toe as I made my way to a beautiful little coffee shop, to meet the woman who would be by my side as the process of donation continued. I wanted to make a good first impression. So many thoughts were running through my head; what to say, how to sit, watching my language and minding my manners. Everything my mother had ever taught me about being a lady I was going to put into practice.

I arrived at the entrance and glanced across the room and there she was. Melany, with long curly brown hair and I was guessing about forty years of age. She stood up as we made eye contact and I moved towards her. I felt as though I was floating. My body was moving as a whole, yet at the same time my hands were warm and sweating, my heart pounding in my chest.

I shook her hand, the lady that would get me to the finish line. Introduced myself and from that moment onwards we spoke as if we had known each other for years. We laughed and exchanged thoughts and opinions and she explained exactly what I would be going through in very intense detail. I became nervous at times, but she was very quickly able to make me feel secure and completely sure about what I was doing.

Following that interview was an appointment with a clinical psychologist at the fertility clinic. Now never having been to a psychologist before, I had a very anxious feeling as I sat there. The room was bare. The only thing that made it feel warm was the smell of burning vanilla incense. As I breathed it in the smell brought a calming feeling over me.

I thought to myself that this is not another interview; it is simply a conversation between two adults, to give a perspective as to whether I am mentally prepared for everything, which I felt I was. I had nothing to fear. I was asked a series of questions about myself and my past, which is apparently normal in that environment. She then proceeded to enquire about my perception on egg donation, asking questions like “Do you not think that your inquisitive side might get the better of you in the years to come?” as what I was doing was completely anonymous. I felt these questions to be rather unnecessary as I had given this decision years of thought, however I answered honestly and she seemed pleased. I look back now and realise that the session is very important and gives the psychologist an opportunity to separate the weak from the strong. I am the strong.

The next and final step was my very first appointment with a gynaecologist. It was uncomfortable to say the least. A Belgian man with silver grey hair came to collect me from the waiting room. He lead me to a very upmarket room where he instructed me on what to do. I proceeded to get undressed and lay down on the bed covering my legs with a towel. This was a moment in life where I could not control the earthquake going on inside of me. I was sweating, my mouth was incredibly dry and when he entered through the curtains, my heart rate tripled instantly.

Throughout the appointment he continuously asked me if I was doing alright – I must have looked like a nervous wreck. We then sat at his desk as he handed me a little navy blue briefcase which contained several injections and hormone treatment. This little blue case would be my wakeup call every morning for the next two weeks.

Never in my life have I experienced the ups and downs, both physically and emotionally, that I have gone through. My hands are holding each other tightly as I await the scrub nurse. Once again my cellphone vibrates and the alert light flashes red. “Another message of well wishes from a friend?” I thought to myself. No. an email from the recipients I was donating to. The world closed up around me as I read the black text. Well wishes, thanks and praises for three whole pages. As I read, my smile grew bigger; I felt a feeling of pride that is entirely indescribable. I am about to allow a couple a chance to become a family. There is no greater gift to give.

The scrub nurse walked in and without hesitation I stood up and felt the world release itself off my shoulders. The pain, the nerves and all the uncomfortable new experiences I had endured were all about to come to an end. That one email made every moment of this journey worthwhile. The anesthetist takes my hand. “Count to ten and sleep tight.”

How to choose an egg donor

Once people have decided to enlist the assistance of an egg donor to have a baby, they need to find a suitable egg donor. Something that if done on your own, can feel very much like going on a blind date, blind-folded

Selecting an egg donor is not too unlike online dating where you can view the profiles of an overwhelming number of potential suitors. Only, in this case, your ‘matchmaking’ service is not a dating service website, but an egg donation agency who knows that this is not just about a once off event, but instead understands that choosing the right donor is one of the most important decisions you will make for your future family. After selecting a reputable egg donor agency, donor recipients will have access to the agency’s database of egg donors from where they will be able to peruse and review a variety of egg donor profiles. Egg donors are healthy young female volunteers between the ages of 21 and 34 years old. In South Africa, an egg donor’s identity is never revealed – which is why future parents are only able to view baby and toddler photos  of their donor. This is to protect the donor’s anonymity

But in order to make sure that donors select the right person, all the egg donor profiles contain extensive and detailed information about the donor: From her physical traits, full medical history, family information, academic information, personality traits, interests, social as well as professional aspects. In fact, you will get to know virtually everything about her, except her real name. Her profile should also state her egg donation stipulations and availability.

These detailed profiles allow the recipients to make an informed choice and to ultimately select someone who closely matches their own uniqueness in attributes and physical appearance.

All efforts are undertaken by reputable egg donor agency to optimise the process for egg donors and their recipients to make the process as efficient as possible and to increase the success rate of conception. An established egg donation agency will be able to effectively guide and support recipients about selecting the right profiled egg donor. It is important that people have access to a solid and reputable egg donor database.

When egg donation recipients find ‘the one’, that ideal candidate who is the right fit for them, they will most often experience contentment and peace when reading the egg donor profile. Sometimes it’s a ‘gut feel’ thing, othertimes it’s a ‘connection’ that takes place when you read a specific profile.  But no matter how you choose your perfect donor, it is vital that the ‘matchmaking’ agency makes the process as comforting and fulfilling as possible.