We have put together a list of books and leaflets that cover the area of infertility, egg donation, adoption etc. We hope this helps you and your future children.
“A tiny itsy bitsy gift of life, an egg donor story” by Carmen Martinez Jover
A touching children’s egg donor story about a happy couple of rabbits, Pally and Comet. You accompany them in their longing to have a child, the waiting and the moment the mother is informed she has no eggs to conceive. One day a good lady rabbit brings her a tiny itsy bitsy gift of life, which is the egg –the half– she needs to conceive. The rabbit’s tummy then begins to grow and finally her baby bunny is born and the happiness of how this family is formed is shared. More information on Carmen’s website
“Recipes of How Babies are Made” by Carmen Martinez Jover
Natural conception, egg donor, sperm donor, embryo donation, surrogacy and adoption, are explain compared to making a cake. For a cake you need flour, eggs, milk etc, that come from wheat, hen and cow, you mix the ingredients and bake in an oven. For a baby you need a sperm and an egg, that come from a man and woman. You mix and in a womb the baby grows for 9 months. This is a children’s story which explains in a very simple way all the different methods used to conceive children nowadays. More information on Carmen’s website
“The Baby Kangaroo Treasure Hunt, a gay parenting story“ by Carmen Martinez Jover
A sweet children’s story of how two kangaroos: Jack and Sam, a gay couple, have their own baby by means of an egg donor and surrogacy. Using kangaroos in the story enables children to easily understand the methods related in their conception in a simple and loving way. More information on Carmen’s website
“So Close: Infertile and Addicted to Hope” by Tertia Albertyn
Meet, marry and make a baby: That’s how it’s supposed to go, right? What happens when you start trying for a family … and trying, and trying some more? How far do you go to achieve your dream of having children? So Close is the heart wrenching, exhilarating, devastatingly funny story of Tertia Albertyn’s battle with infertility. Tertia wanted a baby so badly she went through nine IVFs. Most people give up after the third. I don’t think I am being brave at all. I am just too terrified NOT to try again. In her worst nightmare she could never have imagined that making a baby would take her four years, each treatment bringing her and her husband Marko closer and closer to creating their family. During Tertia’s journey everything that can go wrong does go wrong. Until, finally, everything goes just right. Tertia is as hilarious as she is irrepressible, as approachable as she is knowledgeable. If you are struggling with infertility, have triumphed over infertility or have felt empathy with someone who is going through this experience, you will find a friend in Tertia. Buy the book on Amazon or on Kalahari
“Navigating the Land of If” by Melissa Ford
Author of the extremely successful blog Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters, Melissa Ford presents readers with a guide for navigating the complex world of infertility. The Land of If got its name not only because “IF” is the abbreviation for “infertility” in the online world, but also because there are so many “ifs” inherent in being here. No stranger to the Land of If herself, Ford shares her hard-earned knowledge and insights, helping couples struggling with infertility understand the lingo, learn the details doctors tend to leave out, and keep their emotional sanity despite seemingly insurmountable obstacles. Navigating the Land of If gives the nitty-gritty on injections, rejections, biting your tongue during happy parent-to-be conversations, and trying not to cry over baby shower invitations. With chapters that include how-to’s for same-sex couples, and present adoption or remaining child-free as plausible alternatives, Ford tells you exactly what you need to know, from one infertile to another. More information on Melissa’s website
In a clear, sincere and transparent way, Carmen describes autobiographically the problem of infertility, representing it through the images in her painting. After telling her story of the constant struggle between doctors and syringes, the author decides to paint chairs as a way of relief; chairs which express each one of her longings, each moment of sadness, each situation of powerlessness which this kind of situation brings. She concludes with a beautiful lesson, which demonstrates that there is always a future and a personal growth to become a better parent for the child that will come no matter under which procedure. You feel how the author drops into emotional free fall until she hits the bottom, and then, like a new person, lifts herself up, greater and stronger spiritually, transforming a nightmare into her present day strength and motivation. We perceive two different persons, one before and one after, separated by infertility. More information on Carmen’s website
“Knock Yourself Up” by Louise Sloan
“Knock Yourself Up features Louise’s own hilarious and heart-warming story, plus the experiences of other women from all over the U.S. who decided they wouldn’t let being single stand in the way of creating a family. This entertaining and informative book is required reading for any single woman over 30 who thinks she might want kids someday.”
The book has caused a fair amount of controversy and debate thus far, mostly among people who haven’t read it. With its tongue-in-cheek title and engaging style, Knock Yourself Up lends humor and humanity to an often difficult topic, while confronting important issues regarding fatherhood and children’s rights head-on. More info on Louise’s website.
“The Greatest Gift” by Terri Lailvaux
Terri Lailvaux is an adoptive mom of a 7 year old boy called Alex. She is also the author of a children’s story book about adoption called The Greatest Gift. This book is also available in Afrikaans, Die Grootste Geskenk and on demand in Xhosa, German, Italian and French. Terri is a qualified counsellor who offers info sessions for people with any interest in adoption (pre or post) and is an accomplished public speaker. More information on Terri’s website.