Love notes between an egg donor & her recipient

We shared the news of our deserving recipient’s pregnancy news with her egg donor….
Her donor had this to say:
“That is the most amazing news on the day my sister went into labour of her baby girl.
“It brought tears to us all, and a moment of silence, in which we all realised how blessed we are that we can build our family without even blinking twice”.
At first my mum and sister were a bit sceptical about my donation, they now fully understand and are incredibly proud of me.
I am SO SO SO happy that we were able to change this family’s life and make their dearest dream come true.
I can’t even express :-)
I hope you Nurture ladies will keep up this incredible work and make as many couples as possible a family.
Lots of love and all the best for you and the family, please let them know how happy I am for them and that I didn’t regret my decision for a second.
xxxxx
On receipt of her egg donor’s note – our recipient’s feedback 
“Oh my God! This is really beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes too…… I really don’t have enough words to express how thankful I am and how much I appreciate her help, I can just feel…..
Although I never met her, I immediately felt positive vibes when I was going through her profile and I sense that she did the donation with the great desire to really help us. I think that she is a wonderful person with a beautiful soul.
Thank you all Nurture ladies for your help too! It is so nice that you help dreams come true for couples like us!…. And thank you so much for having the perfect donor for us.
I will update you later on how the pregnancy develops. I hope that everything will be fine and we will be able to share some baby pictures with you”
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“Your positive energy has kept me going”

shutterstock_341731643 copy 2“Today was a special day…the retrieval day and sperm donation from hubby.

My fingers are crossed for a beautiful outcome…

Do let me know how our egg donor did…how many eggs were retrieved, how many fertilised and the grades for our embryos etc.

This would be my first informed IVF cycle, since I engaged with the fertility clinic in 2011.

I think a donor IVF cycle is better than a standard IVF cycle, in that there is someone responsible for taking care of your cycle, you are like their patient and kind hearted Gerida always makes her recipients forget the emotional side of their cycle with her humour and jokes! Keep it up girl. …we shall keep sending ladies like me to you!

I cannot stop thinking of how difficult it was for me to decide on going the egg donor route. Your positive energy has kept me going and I am taking it a lot easier that I expected. You don’t know how much you have counselled me with your kind words.

Gerida, I appreciate you a great deal. Keep it up. Botswana will keep you very BUSY!”

 

Wonderful news from our egg donor recipient

“I’m happy to let you know that indeed a baby boy was born on the 6th January 2016.  We are both doing very well and he is two months old today.

No words can describe our excitement for the successful treatment.  We are so grateful for your assistance and professionalism in the way you treated us throughout the whole process.

God continue to bless and keep you, so you may continue to help people like us.

Thanking you, always”

 

 

A beautiful note from a recipient to her egg donor

“This morning I woke up to an email that told me the donor I had painstakingly chosen was no longer viable. After a long and emotional search I felt once again defeated and inadequate, you see it’s not just about choosing another woman to be the beginning of your future child’s life, it’s about realising once again that you can’t do it yourself. BUT then tonight the wonderful Kim at Nurture brought me you and I was once again reminded again why everything happens for a reason.

I just turned 42, I am the Director of four businesses and I passionately believe in ideas and creation and doing what you love. I am a talent agent (like Jerry Maguire but it’s not that glamorous in real life, no one ever completes you!), my job is to make other people’s dreams a reality. Somewhere along the line my dreams were ignored. It wasn’t a conscious choice, I didn’t mean to be here at 42 without a husband/partner or a family, I didn’t deliberately put career over children and I certainly didn’t choose to be diagnosed with early menopause at 41 making it impossible for me to have my own biological children. Stupidly I thought I had more time.

Reading your profile tonight made me smile and laugh, you sound a lot like the very wilful, ambitious and determined 20’s something I used to be and still am (just with more wrinkles)! I wasn’t as clear as you are with my goals at that age, I just loved the ideas, I loved creating something and seeing it to fruition, I loved working hard and seeing the results.

When looking for a female donor you want that person to be as much like you as possible, a Caucasian with blue eyes was important because that best physically represented me, but intelligence was equally important. Not necessarily academic intelligence, I was more interested in ingenuity, wit and passion, if I have to choose another woman to create my child then she had to be like me. By the way you write I can tell you are smart, I can tell you are quick witted, that you are curious and that you not just learn, but you absorb the information around you. That’s the kinda gal I am after! I love that you are an actress, it’s a craft I gave up too young and my Mum and I actually fist pumped and did the gig when we read that you have a knack for writing as it is something I am very passionate about and have been told I am very good at.

Suffice to say I am very grateful you came along, you seem like the perfect fit. Although, there is one more thing I would like to ask of you (as if you aren’t doing enough), I am hoping you will reconsider the ‘no’ answer to the question about being contactable if the laws in SA change. In Australia the laws are that a donor must be willing to go onto a registry for the child only to make contact if they wish after they turn 18, the donor still has the option at that point to say no they do not wish to be in contact, there is a chance SA may eventually end up making the same ruling. I am asking you this not because I expect my child would need to come looking for a mother figure, I’m asking because I feel I should on behalf of my unborn child. I don’t think this is my decision to make, I think if the option was there then it would be my child’s and yours to make and if down the track you decided you didn’t want to then you would have the option to say no then as well.

I have no idea if the decisions I am making today are right or wrong, I guess like any hopeful parent I will just do my very best.   So if for whatever reason he or she would like to learn more about their genetic heritage then I feel like they should at least have the potential to do that and as their future Mum then I need to try to give them that option. I understand if your answer is still no, and it won’t change my decision to request you as my donor, I just needed to ask.

Thank you”

xx

Beautiful words from a special egg donor recipient

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“I also wanted to say thank you to you and the Nurture Team.
You all have been such an amazing support to me throughout this whole process, and it truly does mean the world to me.  Especially because there were times I felt I was going to loose my mind with all the added hormones haha, but a steady and calm mind and tons of love and support can do wonders on a personal journey like this.
So thank you for all the emails and constant check in’s and for answering the phone every time I freaked out about something that was normal – lol.
You are all truly incredible people and you are all amazing for creating magic in people’s lives on a daily basis by standing by them and helping them, creating their dreams into realities.
Much love and blessings to all of you.
xoxo”

Beautiful words from our incredible egg donor

heart“It was no trouble at all, in fact the whole process was a breeze and I was feeling back to normal again on Monday evening – I am extremely pleased about the fact that they could retrieve so many and am really hoping the recipient is able to fall pregnant.
To the recipient family:
I came across a beautiful poem that instantly made me think of you.
“I Will Be A Wonderful Mother – Author Unknown
There are women who become mothers without effort, without thought,
without patience or loss, and though they are good mothers and love
their children, I know that I will be better.
 
I will be better not because of genetics or money or because I have
read more books, but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
 
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed. I have endured and
planned over and over again. Like most things in life, the people who
truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their
dreams.
I will notice everything about my child. I will take time to watch my
child sleep, explore, and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every
day for the rest of my life.
 
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of
my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold, and feed him and that I am
not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another
shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
 
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight,
this special vision with which I will look upon my child. Whether I
parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me
to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured.
 
Yes, I will be a wonderful mother.”
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I know that you will be a wonderful mother. I would like to thank you for giving me the opportunity to go through this journey with you, even though we have no contact, it felt comforting to know that there was someone out there going through something similar and that I was in their thoughts as they were in mine. Also I would like to say thank you for my beautiful card, it might have been the hormones but it definitely made me tear up. You both will be forever in my thoughts and I wish for you all the happiness in the world and that you are able to make your dream of having a little bundle of joy come true.
I have no words that can possibly express my gratitude and admiration for both of you.
You will be forever in my heart.
xx”

“With much gratitude to you and your team”

pink heart 5“I am thrilled to share that I will be 14-weeks pregnant on Friday and all my test results are great, we are having a baby girl!  My OB thinks all looks great. The next step is the 20-week scan for all body parts etc.

It has been quite a long two months, but oh my, this is all we had hoped for and if we had the option to pick the sex, it would definitely be a girl!

I am really just letting all the good news sink in. I am feeling extremely hopeful and also amazed at how this is all unfolding at this time.

With much gratitude to you and your team for all you do. Thank you for your patience and persistence getting me to this result. I feel beyond confident with not just our egg donor, but in fact the entire story about how this all unfolded / ended up. That this came together with you and Nurture in the end is also a very big blessing. The whole story sits very well with me and I am very grateful. I do want other women to know all the very good you all do!

Look forward to keeping you posted.

Kindest Regards and Infinite Gratitude

xxx

“I always wanted to make a difference”

Heart-in-hands2“I always wanted to make a difference somewhere, somehow but I didn’t know how until I signed up to be an egg donor.
I also donate blood every second month and it makes me feel very good, knowing that my blood possibly saves someone’s life. With donating eggs it’s a little different. I’m not saving a life here, I’m helping create a new life – a little miracle who will grow up with parents who went the extra mile to have him/her, and there’s this unexplainable emotional connection that you have with your recipient. Although you know you’ll never, ever get to meet your recipient, you still feel as if you’ve known her all your life and you pray for her as if she’s part of your family.
I really don’t know how else to explain it, but what I do know is it makes me feel really, really good.
Thank you!”

Our beautiful egg donor’s journey comes to an end….

hand copy 2“So today is the end of my journey as an egg donor, but a new one for my recipient.
The Doctor retrieved 20 beautiful eggs today. I hope and pray that when they do the blood test that it will come back positive.
I feel a little sad because there won’t be visits to the Dr anymore, I’m going to miss all the friendly faces at the Cape Fertility Clinic. I would like to say thank you to Dr Matebese – she’s just awesome! Thanks to the Nurse who gave me two warm water bottles and two blankets because I was shivering after the retrieval, but there was no pain at all, and also to the other kind nurse who held my hand until I was asleep, thank you very much! They are all such wonderful people.
Thank you to you Melany for your support, I do appreciate it and to the rest of the Nurture team, you’re awesome!
A message to my recipient:
Thank you very much for choosing me to be your donor, I’m sure there were plenty to choose from but still you chose me. I feel so blessed and honoured, oh gosh I’m gonna cry…
You have no idea what this means to me, I cannot describe it in words, even if I want to.
The gift: I have no idea how you knew I would love it so much, I couldn’t wait to get home to fit it on. I totally love it, thank you so very much, I appreciate it!
In the meantime I’ll be praying non-stop for a miracle.
Thanks again to everyone.
xxx”

“Parenthood requires love not DNA”

A beautiful egg donor’s message to a potential recipient:

pink heart 4“I would like you to take a moment to think about the opportunity you would have from receiving eggs from a donor. Those reasons are why I would like you to have mine. I would like you to have the opportunity to have unconditional love in your life, to be able to wake up knowing that you’ve created a life that is completely dependent on you is the most euphoric feeling I have ever had the privilege to encounter. Parenthood requires love not DNA”