Your egg donation is over… now what ?

Egg Donor

We know many of our amazing egg donors can so relate! They’ve planned around it and eagerly anticipated their donation for months. The fabulous Nurture team, your friends, partners & families have all been right behind you and as excited! You’ve survived the needles, got through the many doctor’s appointments, sailed through the treatment plan, become the best of friends with the clinic staff, bonded with the amazing specialists Nurture work with, had your retrieval and handed over a few of your precious eggs.…….whooohooo… what a ride! And so, is that it, now what? What do they mean I can’t do another donation immediately, next month? Hold onto your horses gorgeous, we care about you and the well being of your clever ovaries just a little too much! Nurture will be in touch during the month following the donation with the various options available to you.

Our incredibly special Nurture donors become egg donors as they are compassionate, have huge hearts, care about their fellow human beings out there, want to bring happiness and make a positive difference in someone else’s life and are genuinely amazing people. True story. They are committed and go into the process wholeheartedly, and the process is so consuming for that short period, that when their part is over, it is sometimes hard not to feel a little pushed aside, forgotten, empty or sad :-(

This often rings so true, especially when the recipient couple is pregnant, ecstatic beyond words and their focus now moves away from “hold your breath” and “keep everything crossed” treatments to an exciting new future of celebrating and planning for the family life they’ve longed for, without our fabulous donors none of this would be possible. Whether pregnant or not – YOU have given them hope – Thank You!

The majority of couples who have gone the egg donation route have travelled an incredibly difficult and emotionally taxing journey, having tried for years to reach their dream of having a family. Although some couples are happy to maintain contact with Nurture and their donor (via Nurture) and many do so amongst the excitement in the early stages of pregnancy and parenthood, many often want to put all their infertility pain behind them, to enjoy the pregnancy, their new long awaited family and to feel like a normal family……finally! In order to do so many find it necessary to disconnect from everything concerned with their pre-pregnancy journey, and thus typically keep in touch less often. Don’t take it personally – you have done your bit & it’s time to move forward.

Nurture egg donors are not forgotten, no ways, never ever, not in a million years! Not by Nurture, neither by the recipient parents, we can absolutely assure you of this. Our recipient testimonials are proof of that and many cannot put the immense gratitude they feel into words. You will always be remembered for having done something so incredibly special and owe it to yourself to be super proud of your precious and treasured gift – the feelings of pride and achievement that go with it are fully earned and truly deserved – they can never be taken away and are with you for life.

Remember – YOU make US possible :-)

Our special recipient is expecting twins….

eggs2 copy“Please can you let “D” know that everything is just awesome. I am so overwhelmed to have such special gifts and indebted to you all for making our miracles happen. Words fail me.

Much love”

“All my stressing was for nothing”

f4a51b4536b087af3a55871cfb05379a“Never in my 21 years of life did i ever imagine myself willingly choose to go for an operation or procedure thingy.

When I first came across Nurture, I googled it and came across the website. I saw the R6000 compensation and naturally, as a student that caught my attention. I read up more and more about it and started to really consider becoming a donor. I chatted to friends and family, with many having negative things to say like “but it will be your child running around” but I had a broader mind then those few.

So off I went to Johannesburg (a City I had never been to) for my initial appointment, nervous as anything but I was welcomed with open arms. It started to feel so surreal and it was a bit overwhelming seeing all the women in the clinic, not your age, who are obviously the ones having problems conceiving.

Before I knew it, it was time for the actual donation process to start, and yet again I could not believe I voluntarily injected myself every day – a tiny painless prick.

Procedure day arrived and I was a wreck. I had never been under sedation, never been to an operating theatre and I never go to the Doctor unless I am dying! So there I was, I sat and waited for my turn to go in, heart racing and imaging how sh*t and painful I was going to feel afterwards.

Nonetheless, my gynae came in and chatted to me as he does, and well let us just say that was the best three hour nap I have ever had! I was out of the sedation after about 30 minutes, however I was so comfy and so relaxed I chose to sleep an extra two hours.

My oh my, I look back now and I can’t believe what a simple procedure that all was! All my stressing was for nothing, if only I had listened to the nurses in the first place! In the end I realised the R6000 compensation was nothing compared to the warm and fuzzy feeling you have afterwards, knowing that parents who are so desperate to have a family, might have a chance at it now”

“I am just so happy that I found Nurture”

“As always, this process was like a walk in the park for me! Team Nurture got things into action immediately and were always making sure things happened quickly, efficiently, hassle – free and with unbelievably amazing communication from the word go. The Doctors appointments were always fast, injections were completely painless, and no hassle or side effects, and my most favourite part of it all – an incredibly great 30 minute sleep, followed by friendly smiles and lots of TLC from the nurses, a perfectly warmed muffin, and much needed cup of coffee!! Not to mention the massive cake that was given to me upon leaving!! W.O.W!! I shared it with my family and it was so sinfully delicious I couldn’t begin to describe (although I might have to schedule in a few extra kilometres into my exercise routine for the next few months to work it off, but it was so worth it!!) The letter I received along with the gift was truly special, reading it put tears in my eyes and made my heart feel so very full. I keep it in my purse with me all the time, and it now serves as a reminder to always be as selfless as I can.
I have everything crossed for my recipient, for my frozen eggies and I just hope and pray that it is a positive result. I am so elated with the news of a baby girl for my previous recipient and I am hoping things go well for the next few months until that incredible moment! They are both in my thoughts, and my heart.

As always, I want to thank each and every one of you for the effort, heart, passion, soul and hard work that goes into every day of the wonderful work you all do. From the fabulous Nurture team, to the staff and Doctors of the Cape Fertility Clinic who have all become so familiar to me and are all such amazing people! You ALL give me faith that this world is filled with so many good hearted people, amongst a world that can be so selfish at times.

This to me is the most incredible of gifts to be able to give and I am just so happy that I found Nurture.  They are more then just a “company”. A group of amazing people that share the same desire to make the almost impossible, possible. From the bottom of my heart I couldn’t be more appreciative of every single one of you that made this possible for me, and the gifts we have given together. I am so passionate about giving this gift of life because my family is more than my everything and everyone deserves that kind of joy and indescribable, unconditional love that is family.
I have many dreams for my future still but this will definitely be the most fulfilling of them all.  All I have left to say now is that if anyone is ever having doubts about donating, send them my way, I would be more then glad to share my experiences and tell them how amazing this team of women are!!
All my love,
xoxo xoxo

“I get to put a smile on someone else’s face”

“Today was the day my eggs were being retrieved and I woke up feeling vibrant and happy! Finally the day had arrived where I get to put a smile on someone else’s face, I am going to be part of the bigger picture and give someone else the chance to feel the joy of having a baby. 16 of my precious eggs were retrieved, I am holding thumbs that the couple are able to conceive.
Love
A grateful donor”

“I can’t find the words”

“I so badly want to send the couple a little message to say how much of an amazing privilege it was to donate for them, but I can’t find the words! If they just know that I say thank you and wish them all the luck in the world, I would appreciate that. Fingers crossed for them over the next two weeks!”

A letter from an egg donor after her final donation

Dear Nurture

I’ve just completed my fourth and probably my last donation (for the forseeable future).

Being one of your donors has been such an enriching experience and I think I’m that much of a better person for it.

I was chatting to my mum just the other day and I was raving about how awesome my skin gets – all glowy and acne free – when I’m on the injections and growing my dozen.

She asked me if that’s why I donate and I chuckled.

The conversation got a bit more intense though. She asked if I didn’t feel like I was cheating her and my dad by giving out the secret recipe so to speak.

I told her that I donated mostly because a recipe that good is worth a share. She wants grandchildren so bad…

I told her that somewhere out there, there’s a woman who wants a child just as badly. That this woman probably has a mother who wants a grandchild just as much and for a while they thought they would never get what they so desired.

Then someone told them there was a way.

It feels so good to know that I could bring happiness and a blessing to a family and that in some little way, if I decide not to have children of my own – my family’s legacy will live on. Not in the genes… but the legacy of kindness, compassion… the legacy will shine in the eyes of a mother to her child and her child to her elders.

I’m sad to close this chapter. I will definitely keep telling my friends about Nurture. And if there’s anyway I can help (minus the eggs) I would love to get involved.

x

“You guys were brilliant!”

“I just went for my post-donation scan this morning. Everything’s back to normal. Thanks for all the help Nurture. You guys were brilliant!”

“You make us valued and loved”

“I just want to thank you guys for the best treatment I received. You are the best, from the initial phone call when I applied to the very end.

God bless you and I am grateful from the bottom of my heart. Please continue making more donors and recipients feel valued and loved.”

“Our family is now complete”

“Thank you so much for everything you have done for us. Our family is now complete, and it would have been impossible without you, and we are forever grateful.

Please pass our thanks and love to our donor and let her know she is a proper real-life hero and has changed our lives more than she could ever imagine. We cannot thank her enough.”