“Nurture is the best choice”

Well time has certainly flown by and our donor will be starting her stims tomorrow. I really just wanted to know if you could tell our donor that we want to thank her for taking the time out of her life to do this. I really do appreciate what’s she’s doing for us.

I also wanted to thank you for everything you’ve done for us. It’s been a really positive experience and I tell anyone I’m chatting to on egg donation forums that Nurture is the best choice.

Thank you so much – you’re the best!!

“I travelled to SA for donor eggs”

We loved the entire experience of travelling to South Africa for donor eggs.

Nurture and Vitalab just made it so easy and no fuss for us. The last thing you want when undergoing fertility treatment is stress, so we stayed somewhere lovely and made a relaxing holiday of it.

We made sure we got in some sightseeing too, but did it at our leisure around the schedule of the fertility clinic. We would, and have, recommended Nurture to many people, and speak openly of our fertility struggles and reasons for going to South Africa for egg donation IVF.

Of course, our experience was extra special because our most precious daughter was born eight months later.

“Our little family is now complete… thank you Nurture”

Dear Tertia

On the 20th October 2010, I emailed you via the Nurture website in regards to organising a egg donor.

Today I am looking at the hard work and struggles we have overcome. Our daughter, now 17 months of age, makes me think how time has flown by and we have never been happier – our little family now is complete.

Sixteen cycles and on miscarriage, and losing my daughter’s twin during the first trimester were worth every jab of a needle, every discomfort of bloatedness, every negative thought towards myself, every negative word from that absent-minded friend, every envious look towards your pregnant friends and strangers at work parties and the shops, every tear that was shed.

I am so lucky to have a beautiful daughter who adores her daddy and me.
It the one and only thing that my husband and I wanted – to be parents, to hear being called “mummy”.

I want to thank you for all the emails and encouragement that you have given not only to me but to all women who are struggling with infertility. I am sending this email to you to let you know you are an inspiration and a wonderful person.

We intend to return to South Africa with our daughter to let her know what a wonderful country she started from and that she was very very wanted, and that will always be loved unconditionally.

Thank you Tertia!

We are sending you big hugs to you and your colleagues at Nurture,

S and G,
Australia

“Thank you for the support”

“Hello Nurture Team!

I am taking my last Pill tomorrow, and everything has been explained nicely, but I will definitely call if I have any questions.

I am a little nervous, but an excited nervous. Thank you for all the support – so far this has been a very nice experience since everyone is so professional, friendly and helpful!”

“I hear positive feedback from Australians”

“I can tell by the detail you have already supplied to me and the time and effort you have put into responding to my questions that if we come to South Africa, we will most definitely be working with your agency.

I can see why there is so much positive feedback from Australians on the Internet who have used your service who have not only fallen pregnant, but who were absolutely blown away by the level of service you provided.

Thank you so much for all your help, I sincerely appreciate it.”

“I’m willing to walk this road with you”

Hi Melany

Hope you are well. I really enjoyed our meeting of today. You are a really sociable and wonderful person!! Thank you for the straightforward answers and also the factual information. It is great to talk to someone who does not play around, and says things as they are!

After today I am more than willing to walk this road with you and really want to be a donor. You can activate my profile – I am ready for this!!

“I am happy to have made a difference”

“I am very proud of myself for having done this for the first time, and having met someone who was there for an implant was very touching. It made me realise what a difference this makes in people’s lives.

I am very happy to have been able to make a difference in the recipient’s life and give them a kickstart on their journey to parenthood.

I wish them all the best and pray for their success. Thank you Nurture for all the work you do to help people.”

“It’s the most incredible feeling to know I have played a big part in creating life”

“Firstly, I would like to say thank you to the entire team for allowing me to fulfil my desire to be a donor. It has been a long-time dream of mine to be able to help other woman to be able to start a family of their own.

Knowing a few women myself, who have been unsuccessful in trying to conceive, it has been the most incredible feeling to be able to know that I have played such a big part in creating life, for those that are unable to. I would love to continue to help as many families as I can, because I really believe this is my chance to give back to this beautiful world.

The team you have, has been incredible, and passionate in every way, from the very second I applied. The dedication that you ladies have is what makes me believe that this world is filled with many beautiful people, and gives me hope that there are people out there, that care, as I do.

I cannot express my gratitude enough for this, and for all you do for those lucky people out there. Your love, care and commitment through the entire process, is more than inspirational, and I hope that you always continue to spread such love and light.

From the bottom of my heart, I would like to once again, say thank you, and can only wish that the world was filled with more people like this AMAZING team! I hope that everyone knows how hard you all work, to make us donors feel so incredibly comfortable, and for providing such amazing support, and care.

My heart is eternally grateful for everything you have all done!”

“You guys obviously care a lot”

“My husband and I had a look at your website as soon as our registration came through, and it was a bit daunting thinking about who to chose, so we will take it step by step.

The questions and answers you had posted up there are brilliant. It put into words all the confusing and conflicting fears and feelings and was very reassuring. Thanks – you guys obviously care ALOT!”

On egg donation number five

Candace Whitehead is one of our donor angels, and we have loved working with her, and reading her blog posts about her donation. This post is taken from her her blog Down the Rabbit Hole (she’s a great blogger to follow!)

Right, so the past week has been insane on so many levels… The Oscar Pistorius story has kinda taken up a lot of emotional and mental energy (and it didn’t help that the increased traffic tanked our site for two days). But finally I get to sit down and do a bit of a catch-up on my egg donation.

As I mentioned, this donation was different – it was at a local hospital instead of the Clinic that I’ve done the previous four at. This meant a lot of things, but mostly a new team and a slightly different way of doing things. Mostly, it meant a lot more waiting than usual. After one of my scans, where I lay in the examination room in a robe for about 10 minutes before the doctor arrived, I decided to bring my Kindle to do some reading while I waited.

But otherwise, things went smoothly – bar one hilarious (okay, not really) incident where, while trying to remove an air bubble from my Lucrin shot (read more about Lucrin here), I forced the plunger down too hard and squirted about 2 units of the precious mixture out and across my bedroom. At 9pm.

I would have loved to have seen my face.

No harm done, though – the nurse in charge of my cycle let me come in for a 2 unit top-up – though I did feel terribly, terribly guilty because I felt as though I’d put everyone out.

Anyway, then it was go time. I was scheduled to check in for 7am and the wonderful X picked me up at the crack of dawn (both of us still yawning our heads off) and dropped me off.

And for the first time, I managed to snap a pic of my snazzy hospital arm band. Look at me go:

Then I was led to the day ward – oh, I wish I’d thought to take photos of it, it was such a wonderful, vintage institutional feeling place, very 1970s with the cream walls, though they did have a super cozy bedspread! – and was given a theatre gown and a robe to put on while I waited. It was very quiet – just me in the ward for the most part – and I didn’t bring anything to read, so I memorised the anaesthesia pamphlet that had been left on the bedside table instead.

Then, the anaesthetist popped by to ask me the usual questions (allergic to anything/have you had a reaction to anaesthesia before/when was your last operation/are you feeling well etc etc) and check my chest and heartrate, before I was called up to walk down the hall to where the little operating area had been set up. I was just about to go in when I met the doctor that was to perform my retrieval – not the doctor who performed my scans, oddly, but I was happy to go with it. The anaesthetist was absolutely wonderful about making me feel happy and relaxed, talking to me and teasing me a little and making sure I felt safe and comfortable. Then he warned me that “If I started feeling funny, it was just him” and I remember thinking that I felt absolutely fine – then I woke up in recovery.

I had a wonderful nurse taking care of me – though in my semi-unconscious state I managed to completely forget her name – who made sure I was well-equipped with a hot water bottle, a pot of tea and a mildly awful toasted cheese and tomato sandwich. And then the best surprise of all – my donor liaison popped round to hang out while I was recovering! In my stoned state I may have been a bit random and possibly quite annoying, but it was great chatting to her and getting a bit more of a “behind-the-scenes” look at the donation agency (who have just opened a branch in London, and it’s really interesting how differently they do things there!)

And she came bearing a gift – a charm that I am already wearing, though I will need to get a stronger chain for…

Anyway, they managed to get a pretty decent haul for my recipient – which I was quite happy with, because I was on a slightly lower protocol of the follicle stimulants than I usually am – and I should hopefully find out in the next few weeks whether or not the pregnancy was successful. Keeping fingers and toes crossed!

And so this is either my last or second-to-last donation. Either way, I’m a little sad at the thought of my journey with Nurture ending – I can’t begin to tell you how this experience has changed my life, in so many ways.

The fact that I’ve (so far) helped two women become mothers has been something that I wish I had the words for. It’s an incredible feeling, knowing that you have changed somebody’s life – undeniably.

As always, if you’re looking to donate – or if you want to become a recipient – visit the amazing (seriously, they’re amazing) women at Nurture. And feel free to either visit my previous FAQ post or ask any questions that you may have here – I’m more than happy to help answer them to the best of my ability.