” I just wanted to tell you how happy I am. I expected there to be rewarding moments from parenthood… but, actually, I’m bowled over by it all……. I didn’t expect the baby to heal me and fill the spaces in my life that I didn’t even know were empty. ”
It is really fulfilling to know that I have gifted two sets of parents with something that is truly priceless
“Gerida was totally amazing (give that woman a Bells!) and spoilt me rotten with the support she gave me throughout each egg donation experience. It is really fulfilling to know that I have gifted two sets of parents with something that is truly priceless.
With that being said, Nurture has been so good to me but I feel like I have done enough. Maybe in the future I will donate again but for now, and for the most part, I am done.
It was really such a blast and a truly unique experience. Thank you for giving me this unique platform to express my womanhood!”
To all our fabulous egg donors….. we want you to remember what an incredible difference you’ve made / will make to the lives of forever grateful recipients who are heavily reliant upon someone, a special stranger to make the magic happen and their dreams come true!
Your gift really does change lives. It can turn what can be a painful, lonely holiday like Christmas to one of incredible, sometimes unimaginable happiness! Christmas takes on a whole new meaning when there are little one(s) in the family to share it with!
Whether your recipient’s journey has resulted in a successful pregnancy or not, your amazing gift remains the same: kind, generous, selfless and inspiring. We salute you! From the bottom of our hearts and the hearts of the couple you are giving hope to, thank you SO much!
Wishing you lots of festive cheer and to those celebrating, have yourselves a very, VERY, Merry Christmas! We hope that 2015 brings you the good fortune you so truly deserve!
This awesome donor had this feedback to share: “I feel like a guardian angel. The procedure was very smooth and short.
Can you believe 8 eggs were retrieved !! It gave me some sense of accomplishment.
Thanks again xoxo”
We received the most beautiful email from one of our amazing recipients. Thank you so much for your touching update, we are honoured to have been able to help!! Congratulations!! xx
I know you are all very busy in the lead up to Xmas. I hope you have a wonderful time with your families and loved ones and are able to enjoy some well earned time out. There will always be a special place in my heart for each one of you and I will never forget your kindness and compassion during my journey.
Our little girls are coming along beautifully and I will be 33 weeks tomorrow. At my last scan it was apparent that the bigger twin is trying very hard to push out her sister. Is this a sign of sibling rivalry to come? I am being very closely monitored because it puts me at much greater risk of early labour and may also compromise the little one. I have had steroids just in case and met with my Doctor today. We are going to bring the c section forward and have set tentative dates. I can’t believe how close it is now and whilst I am prepared for their stint in the neo natal unit (well sort of!), I cannot wait to see and hold them.
It’s such a special time and I feel incredibly blessed to be carrying these beautiful babies. Thank you so much for making my dreams come true. Please let our egg donor know how amazing she is and that we are doing just fine. Both babies are a good size so we are confident that everything will be ok.
With much love
Yes, everything is wonderful! Again thank you so much for everything! Not only do I feel great doing this (again) but I get treated like a Queen
Our special Recipient had this to say:
“We are about to head back to Sydney after two weeks in your beautiful city.
The egg donation process has been a very positive experience for us and we are eternally grateful to our donor for giving us such a wonderful gift and opportunity. We hope she is doing well. Please pass on our gratitude to her for all of her commitment, effort and sincerity. We are optimistic for a positive result but whatever happens our value for what she has done for us will remain forever.
Also, many thanks to you and Nurture for everything you have done for us. You have given us such a warm and understanding response to everything right from the initial point of contact. Keep up the good work as we might even be back again
We have taken in all the Cape Town touristy stuff and have been amazed by this City and its surrounds. We are not surprised that Cape Town has been rated the world’s top tourist destination, nothing can compare. We also met your friendly baboons at Cape Point. In fact, we survived your lions, leopards, rhinos, hippos and elephants (which came pretty close) as well!
Thanks again and we will be in touch”
“I’m not much of a soppy, emotional person, but that was beautiful – thank you! I’m quite impressed I’ve donated to a foreign family!
It’s been such a great opportunity, this whole donation process. I didn’t know what to expect in the beginning, but I knew in my mind it would be rewarding. Please tell my recipient family it’s been the biggest pleasure to be a part of their journey. If someone is willing to invest so much time, effort, and money into having children I truly believe the child(ren) will grow up in an extremely privileged family.
I’m holding thumbs and crossing fiingers for great success
You are a healthy young woman between the age of 21 and 34 and you have seen an advertisement or have somehow become aware of egg donation. Perhaps you have a relative or friend who has been unable to conceive and you’ve witnessed her plight and heartbreak firsthand. Or maybe you know a fabulous same sex couple or a singleton that also yearns to have a child.
No matter how you became aware or why you were initially inspired to donate, here is what you can expect once you embark on this journey as an egg donor.
First, you have to fill out a detailed application form at your preferred donor agency (make sure you are with an agency that is first class, Nurture obviously!). Typical information you would have to disclose includes your physical traits such as your height, weight, eye colour, natural hair colour; personality traits; your educational history; medical history; etc.
You’ll also be required to supply photographs of yourself as a baby, a toddler and a young child (up to the age of ten). Once you have been selected to be on the agency’s database of registered donors, this information and the photographs is what the prospective recipients of your donor eggs will have access to. The donor agency may also expect you to provide a recent photograph of yourself for their own records, but since egg donors remain anonymous in South Africa, the prospective donor egg recipients will never get to see a photograph of you as an adult or find out what your real name and contact details are.
If the agency accepts you based on your application form, you’ll have a face to face meeting with an agency coordinator to discuss moving forward. This is one of many opportunities you will get to ask all the questions you want to ask, and to discuss once again exactly what is involved in the donation process.
If you are still keen, your profile is added to the donor agency’s database and prospective recipients will immediately start viewing your profile information.
Once a donor recipient decides that YOU are the chosen one based on your profile – and this can take anything from days or weeks to months – you will have two initial appointments at the fertility clinic, one with the gynaecologist and one with the psychologist. Once the clinic receives all the results and is all is found to be in order, you will be put on a contraceptive pill for the next 6 – 8 weeks (provided that you are not already on one.)
The actual donation process will therefore begin approximately 6 – 8 weeks after that initial appointment with the doctor and psychologist.
About a week before you’ll begin treatment, you’ll have another brief appointment at the clinic to collect all your relevant medication. Please note that you as the donor do not have to pay for any of the doctor’s appointments, assessments or medication pertaining to the egg donor program. You may have to miss classes or work for some of your appointments, but doctor’s notes will be supplied for any/all visits. It is for this inconvenience, for all your petrol and for all the effort you’ve made that you will receive the financial compensation of R6 000.
On the first day of your menstrual cycle after you’ve begun taking the contraceptive, you will book an appointment for your Day 8 scan. On the third day, you will begin the daily hormone injections. On Day 8, you will have your first scan. From then until Day 12, you will receive the second and third scans. Depending on how well your body has responded to the hormonal treatment, you should be undergoing the egg retrieval procedure approximately 14 days after starting the treatment.
The Egg Retrieval Process
The actual procedure only takes about 20 – 30 minutes with about an hour recovery time at the clinic. The name of the procedure you will undergo is called an oocyte (egg) aspiration. During it, the doctor will pass a needle through your upper vagina into each ovary to extract the mature eggs. The doctor uses an ultrasound to guide him/her through the process. Since the eggs are only a tenth of a millimetre in size, they can be easily sucked through a needle. The eggs grow in follicles which are bubbles of water which are 2cm in size. The needle pierces the follicles and sucks the water out with the egg in it.
During the procedure, you will be placed under intravenous sedation for comfort called ‘twilight sedation’. It is a type of anaesthetic technique during which the patient is sedated, but not entirely unconscious. It is just like regular anaesthesia, in that it uses many of the same drugs (but in lower dosages) and is also designed to make the patient feel more comfortable, but it carries fewer risks. Although the patient may not be entirely asleep, but in a ‘twilight’ state or light sleep, the anaesthesia also relieves the anxiety on the part of the patient, ensures that the patient feels no pain during the procedure and creates a state of amnesia so that the patient won’t remember the procedure later on.
The drugs used in twilight anaesthesia are fast acting and quick to reverse, so patients can be woken up in a matter of minutes.
If you feel uncomfortable or anxious about the level of sedation, feel free to discuss it with the doctor and he will ensure that you are given extra medication to sedate you more.
After a brief recovery from the anaesthesia, you will be able to go home. Someone must be there to drive you home. Once at home, you should rest for the remainder of the day. Just relax and make sure that you stay hydrated.
Some donors experience some spotting and mild discomfort after the procedure (akin to menstrual cramps), but a general painkiller (such as myprodol) should provide adequate relief.
Donors who have completed the procedure will have to avoid having unprotected sex until the completion of their next menstrual cycle, since she will be extremely fertile. So if you do not want a pregnancy of your own just yet, just remember: no glove, no love!
Over the next few weeks, the donor agency will remain in touch with you to let you know whether your donation had resulted in a pregnancy or not.
Should you be interested in helping someone create the family they’ve longed for, get in touch with us here.