“This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish”

Tammuz ad copy“I do not have the words to explain how I am feeling right now. I just left the clinic after my egg retrieval.  I’m sooo emotional from all the happiness.

I feel super blessed to have had the opportunity to donate and think it was all so worth it. I cannot express enough how grateful I am for the couple who chose me. I can’t seem to stop crying. This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish!

Please tell the recipient parents that I got their gift and I appreciate it more than they could ever know, I hope and pray for every success with this journey ahead of them.

Thank you to Nurture and the staff at Vitalab too, they really were amazing. I hope to do this again soon.

Good luck & God bless xx”

How to find a suitable egg donor ?

b41f731086d21bc0c9a1662b9c55f63fOnce people have decided to enlist the assistance of an egg donor to have a baby, they need to find a suitable egg donor. Something that if done on your own, can feel very much like going on a blind date, blind-folded.

Selecting an egg donor is not too unlike online dating where you can view the profiles of an overwhelming number of potential suitors. Only, in this case, your ‘matchmaking’ service is not a dating service website, but an egg donation agency who knows that this is not just about a once off event, but instead understands that choosing the right donor is one of the most important decisions you will make for your future family. After selecting a reputable egg donor agency, donor recipients will have access to the agency’s database of egg donors from where they will be able to peruse and review a variety of egg donor profiles. Egg donors are healthy young female volunteers between the ages of 21 and 34 years old. In South Africa, an egg donor’s identity is never revealed – which is why future parents are only able to view baby and toddler photos  of their donor. This is to protect the donor’s anonymity

But in order to make sure that donors select the right person, all the egg donor profiles contain extensive and detailed information about the donor: From her physical traits, full medical history, family information, academic information, personality traits, interests, social as well as professional aspects. In fact, you will get to know virtually everything about her, except her real name. Her profile should also state her egg donation stipulations and availability.

These detailed profiles allow the recipients to make an informed choice and to ultimately select someone who closely matches their own uniqueness in attributes and physical appearance.

All efforts are undertaken by a reputable egg donor agency to optimise the process for egg donors and their recipients to make the process as efficient as possible and to increase the success rate of conception. An established egg donation agency will be able to effectively guide and support recipients about selecting the right profiled egg donor. It is important that people have access to a solid and reputable egg donor database.

When egg donation recipients find ‘the one’, that ideal candidate who is the right fit for them, they will most often experience contentment and peace when reading the egg donor profile. Sometimes it’s a ‘gut feel’ thing, othertimes it’s a ‘connection’ that takes place when you read a specific profile.  But no matter how you choose your perfect donor, it is vital that the ‘matchmaking’ agency makes the process as comforting and fulfilling as possible.

Nurture gals….privileged to be working from home

e07bb633c0a774c5267c6451025c2d25The fabulous Nurture gals are very fortunate to have the privilege of working from home (some may call it a blessing!). Admittedly it does pose its challenges i.e. knowing when to stop working (because we absolutely LOVE what we do!), knowing how to say no to those friends who want to go hang out at Vida, learning how to balance work, family, chores and errands without burning one’s self out. We all have amusing stories to share about managing husband and kids demands, multi- tasking, neglecting one’s appearance, juggling the demands of the office and dealing with stepping out of the comfort zone when the time comes to refrain from working in one’s pajama’s and to make an actual appearance in person.

Over the years we’ve learned to really appreciate the obvious benefits of not having to commute to and from an office and waste hours away in crazy traffic jams.  Let us not forget the savings on fuel and vehicle maintenance, on ludicrous phone bills (after all what else is a woman to do in traffic other than catch up with girlfriends?) and on uncomfortable business attire (which we all hate anyway!).

Having the ability to work from our beds on those dreary winter days, to sneak in the odd mani, to share in the day to day tribulations of child rearing and most importantly being available when our families need us, as well as having the luxury of being able to spend more time with our precious families are perks one cannot put a price to.

All of this whilst contributing to the household income and helping make a huge difference to the lives of other people which is something we’re all so passionate about, we wouldn’t change it for the world!

What makes a good Egg Donor Agency?

tertia kim gerida webWhen you’ve made the important decision to start or expand your family through egg donation, the next vital step you need to take is to select a reputable egg donation agency.

A great egg donation agency is a bit like a doctor with a great bedside manner.  An understanding best friend who is always willing to listen and an attentive councillor, who can guide you through challenging times all rolled into one! Infertility is a tough, lonely place – you need all the help you can get, to keep your sanity and your sense of humour intact.

Not only will a good agency provide you with a large database of wonderful and carefully pre-screened egg donors to choose from, but it will ensure that you receive excellent service from them as well as from the fertility clinic where you will be treated, every step of the way. This means that there will be constant interaction and intervention between the agency, the fertility clinic and the egg donor, and that you will be kept well informed at all times during the process.

An egg donor program that is managed and facilitated by a really good egg donation agency, will help donor recipients to better understand the process, answer any and all questions with patience and clarity. This will save prospective recipients from the trouble of having to wade through and trying to comprehend any medical or legal issues that they would like to clarify.

In South Africa, egg donor agencies are primarily located in the major cities such as Cape Town, Johannesburg, Pretoria and Durban. In some instances, donor agencies have donors who are willing to travel to other cities to participate in the program.

When choosing a donor agency, prospective donor egg recipients need to explore important criteria such as the agency’s reputation, its affordability, efficiency, availability of egg donors, professionalism, the period of time it has been in existence, its association with top fertility clinics in the area and the quality of its service.

Another aspect that makes an egg donation agency excellent is its commitment to continuously expand and keep fresh its database of profiled egg donors by recruiting new donors. A great agency will also offer immediate feedback to any queries pertaining to egg donation fertility treatment.

A good egg donor agency doesn’t over promise and under-deliver. A good egg donor agency makes sure that all their donors that are listed as available, ARE available and meet the prescribed criteria. A good egg donor agency knows that by the time a recipient couple has reached the point of egg donation, they are tired, heartbroken and financially and emotionally depleted.  A good egg donor agency does their utmost to ensure that this is the last chapter of the journey that ends with the words  “….and they all lived happily ever after”.

“Know that you are special”

heart balloonThere really are some phenomenal people in this world.  Sadly we don’t always get the results we hope for with every cycle, yet despite a negative outcome our incredibly brave recipient had this to say to her donor:

“We wanted you to know that although there was a negative outcome, our perception of you is this…..

It takes an extremely special person to be willing to put their lives on hold, to medicate themself and to go through a medical procedure in order to give a stranger an opportunity to begin their family. These actions are evidence of a compassionate soul with a big heart.

We would like to say thank you. Know that you are special! xx

Nurture’s Good “Green” Journey

girl_in_the_grass_2-wallpaper-800x600 copyThe very name of our company, Nurture, embodies caring, caretaking and cherishing. We proudly live up to our name, not only in the myriad of ways that we care about the well-being of our clients, but also in the proactive steps we take to extend that same kindness to the environment.

Although we are a small company, consisting of only seven women, we strive to make an enormous difference in the world. That is why we also endeavor to be as eco-conscious as possible.

Being ‘green’ is the new black nowadays, but our eco-conscious efforts are not about trying to be trendy or politically correct. It turns out the issue hits close to all of our hearts. In recent years, various studies conducted by researchers around the world have come to the disturbing conclusion that a range of environmental toxins, including traffic pollution, are responsible for an increase in male infertility.

In an effort to minimize our own carbon footprint, all of us at Nurture work from home. Apart from the obvious perks this entail – such as being able to spend more precious time with our families and not having to deal with maddening traffic jams during a daily commute – it also means that we are polluting less, since minimal driving translates into less harmful carbon fumes being released. Not to mention less personal fuming due to road rage! Those are just as harmful to everyone’s general health and well-being.

By telecommuting, we also save money on fuel (score!) and we save paper (and by extension, trees) too, since we handle most of our correspondence online. All of our donor applications, consent forms, recipient applications and agreements, and proof of payment notifications are conveniently done online. We print documents only when absolutely necessary, such as when a recipient requests a fully signed agreement, in which case the document is printed, signed and scanned, before once again being sent back as an online attachment.

By doing our part, we hope to preserve the planet for all of our and your children – present and future.

“I could not believe something I had done made someone else so incredibly happy”

4fdfc2a9b00dd7bb8c7e3a7b21ea89e3“I started out feeling all excited when I was chosen by the intended parents to become their egg donor. I went for my internal scan, my first ever which was quite scary with me not knowing what to expect. I got my injections and started the process.

Today I went in for my egg retrieval, I had mixed feelings of nervousness and excitement all in one!  When I came out of theatre the lovely clinic nurse came to see me and brought me a lovely gift, which I really did not expect from my recipient parents! As soon as I got it I burst into tears, I could not believe something I had done made someone else so incredibly happy! I felt overjoyed and so emotional, all I could think was “Wow! I just did something selfless for someone I do not know” and that made me feel proud and like a very special person.

I pray, hope and believe that the parents will get their miracle. I cannot thank them enough for picking me to be a part of the joyful journey that lies ahead of them and the many treasured memories!!

Good luck to them and thank you Nurture for doing such amazing, selfless work!!”

Your egg donation is over… now what ?

Egg Donor

We know many of our amazing egg donors can so relate! They’ve planned around it and eagerly anticipated their donation for months. The fabulous Nurture team, your friends, partners & families have all been right behind you and as excited! You’ve survived the needles, got through the many doctor’s appointments, sailed through the treatment plan, become the best of friends with the clinic staff, bonded with the amazing specialists Nurture work with, had your retrieval and handed over a few of your precious eggs.…….whooohooo… what a ride! And so, is that it, now what? What do they mean I can’t do another donation immediately, next month? Hold onto your horses gorgeous, we care about you and the well being of your clever ovaries just a little too much! Nurture will be in touch during the month following the donation with the various options available to you.

Our incredibly special Nurture donors become egg donors as they are compassionate, have huge hearts, care about their fellow human beings out there, want to bring happiness and make a positive difference in someone else’s life and are genuinely amazing people. True story. They are committed and go into the process wholeheartedly, and the process is so consuming for that short period, that when their part is over, it is sometimes hard not to feel a little pushed aside, forgotten, empty or sad :-(

This often rings so true, especially when the recipient couple is pregnant, ecstatic beyond words and their focus now moves away from “hold your breath” and “keep everything crossed” treatments to an exciting new future of celebrating and planning for the family life they’ve longed for, without our fabulous donors none of this would be possible. Whether pregnant or not – YOU have given them hope – Thank You!

The majority of couples who have gone the egg donation route have travelled an incredibly difficult and emotionally taxing journey, having tried for years to reach their dream of having a family. Although some couples are happy to maintain contact with Nurture and their donor (via Nurture) and many do so amongst the excitement in the early stages of pregnancy and parenthood, many often want to put all their infertility pain behind them, to enjoy the pregnancy, their new long awaited family and to feel like a normal family……finally! In order to do so many find it necessary to disconnect from everything concerned with their pre-pregnancy journey, and thus typically keep in touch less often. Don’t take it personally – you have done your bit & it’s time to move forward.

Nurture egg donors are not forgotten, no ways, never ever, not in a million years! Not by Nurture, neither by the recipient parents, we can absolutely assure you of this. Our recipient testimonials are proof of that and many cannot put the immense gratitude they feel into words. You will always be remembered for having done something so incredibly special and owe it to yourself to be super proud of your precious and treasured gift – the feelings of pride and achievement that go with it are fully earned and truly deserved – they can never be taken away and are with you for life.

Remember – YOU make US possible :-)

Our special recipient is expecting twins….

eggs2 copy“Please can you let “D” know that everything is just awesome. I am so overwhelmed to have such special gifts and indebted to you all for making our miracles happen. Words fail me.

Much love”

“All my stressing was for nothing”

f4a51b4536b087af3a55871cfb05379a“Never in my 21 years of life did i ever imagine myself willingly choose to go for an operation or procedure thingy.

When I first came across Nurture, I googled it and came across the website. I saw the R6000 compensation and naturally, as a student that caught my attention. I read up more and more about it and started to really consider becoming a donor. I chatted to friends and family, with many having negative things to say like “but it will be your child running around” but I had a broader mind then those few.

So off I went to Johannesburg (a City I had never been to) for my initial appointment, nervous as anything but I was welcomed with open arms. It started to feel so surreal and it was a bit overwhelming seeing all the women in the clinic, not your age, who are obviously the ones having problems conceiving.

Before I knew it, it was time for the actual donation process to start, and yet again I could not believe I voluntarily injected myself every day – a tiny painless prick.

Procedure day arrived and I was a wreck. I had never been under sedation, never been to an operating theatre and I never go to the Doctor unless I am dying! So there I was, I sat and waited for my turn to go in, heart racing and imaging how sh*t and painful I was going to feel afterwards.

Nonetheless, my gynae came in and chatted to me as he does, and well let us just say that was the best three hour nap I have ever had! I was out of the sedation after about 30 minutes, however I was so comfy and so relaxed I chose to sleep an extra two hours.

My oh my, I look back now and I can’t believe what a simple procedure that all was! All my stressing was for nothing, if only I had listened to the nurses in the first place! In the end I realised the R6000 compensation was nothing compared to the warm and fuzzy feeling you have afterwards, knowing that parents who are so desperate to have a family, might have a chance at it now”